Last baby blues

[Kc1603]

I had my little girl last week and she is my 5th baby. Me and my husband have always said she is our last one which I was fine with. Now she's here I am really missing being pregnant, feeling her kicks etc. Knowing this was last pregnancy is harder for me to take than I thought. Now she's is here I don't want her to grow up as I keep thinking this is the last time for everything.

I am 28 & my husband 30 so still relatively young. I'm not saying I want another child straight away but later down the line when I'm on my 30's I may want to try for another baby only if we are financially able to do so.

Has anyone else felt like this? My family keep making the comments 'she better be your last' etc

I'm on my 3rd and I got sterilised at birth so she is definitely my last. I knew that I would not feel finished but for lots of reasons it was the sensible thing to do. We are past the tiny baby stage and it makes me so sad to think we won't have it again. I'm finding growing out of clothes harder and each new achievement comes with a hint of sadness that my babies are getting big.
Only you know how many children is right for your family but the decision between head and heart is a difficult one!

Totally normal to feel like this, but I didn't realise it until I had the same conversation with several other mothers.

I knew DD2 would be my last baby and I was basically in mourning for months after her birth. I didn't have PND but I was very down about all the "lasts" I was experiencing.

It took me a good couple of years to fully let go of that stage of my life, but the feelings did lessen with time. Now I can't imagine having to do it again!

Your not relatively young, you are young! 5 babies at 28 enjoy your little one for a while and don’t even contemplate that she is your last perhaps ? More of a she may be but maybe not- who knows kinda thing?
Congratulations by the way.
(Sorry for my shock face it’s just I’m 33 and only have the one and I’m shattered 😂)

If you don't feel done after your fifth child, will you feel done after 6 or 7?
Do you work? If you don't is it fair on your husband for him to be the sole earner to support a family of 6/7/8?

How will you be able to support so many teenagers/students through university? Children get much more expensive when they get older.

At 28 you are very young to have so many children.

Yes I do work and tbh my finances aren't really much of your concern. Yes I'm 28 with 5, my first son passed away so I have 4 at home. My children can make the decision on their education when they get to that point I won't be forcing university on any of them

Thank you everyone else for your replies. I'll take each day by day and enjoy her whilst she is young as I'm sure before I know it she will be starting school x

Sorry for your loss