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Help please, is this learning difficulties or just developmentally slower?

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Flower012 · 11/08/2021 09:42

Hi I was wondering on some advice please. My daughter is 8, (9 in February) when she was 3 she went briefly to speech and language, she is very small and the dentist also said she is a few months/ a year behind developmentally.

She has trouble reading (although this has got much better) and writing (although again this has got much better) but she still always forgets punctuation, capital letters, full stops and she can’t spell.

She finds it hard to understand the conversation and always needs support to understand what people mean. I think she knows what things and words are but will still ask me, “what do they mean”.

She is very quiet in school. Very good and very very polite. She scored working towards in maths, English and science, but scored working at for RE and PE.

She finds it hard to follow instructions, either forgetting some or getting distracted on the way.

She is super cute. She gets angry with her father, and can hit him (not hard). She can get angry at one of her sisters but she doesn’t hurt her. She never hits me and is always very sad and apologetic if she thinks she has upset me. In fact she apologises over and over again until I have to ask her to stop with the apologies as I’m ok.

She always interrupts despite being taught to wait from an early age. She finds it hard to wait. I always have to go over plans or explain our day. She is impatient and likes to do things when she wants to but she is generally very good when I explain why things can’t be done at that time and she doesn’t tantrum, although she may sulk (I know this is usual for kids).

She cannot swim. She can tell the basic time although she still gets the small and big hand mixed up. She’s better at math but she gets her symbols + - etc mixed up. She’s only recently (in the last year) started getting better at math, in year 2 she couldn’t + or - 1 more or less.

She talks constantly. I say she talks before her eyes open ha ha and she remembers the last thing she said at night and talks about it that morning, as if that’s all she’s been thinking about.

She will talk to strangers and be very polite asking them about their day and how they are.

I was just wondering what people thought?
Thank you for your time ☺️

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Ihaveoflate · 11/08/2021 10:09

What do her teachers say? Is she on the SEN (special educational needs) register at school? Does she receive additional support, like extra interventions or help from a teaching assistant?

I think if you have concerns, the best place to start would be the school, either her class teacher or the SENCO (SEN Coordinator). The descriptive grade of 'working towards' is meaningless if you don't know how far away from the expected level they really are. If they don't have any concerns and you're still worried about developmental delay, then talk to your GP about a referral to paediatrics.

It's very hard for anyone who hasn't seen your child to give an informed opinion, so my advice would be to listen to your gut and follow up on your concerns with the appropriate professionals until you're satisfied with the outcome.

LIZS · 11/08/2021 10:14

It sounds like processing issues, which can be verbal, auditory, dyslexia/dyspraxia etc and may be alongside other development delays. Has she met milestones, was the pg and birth straightforward? Ask to speak to Senco with a view to assessment by an Educational Psychologist. Sometimes difficulties mask underlying strengths or aptitude mask weaknesses.

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