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10.5 month old seems ‘behind’

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 10:30

Hi everyone,

I have posted several times about my baby’s development and just like to get some advice from people that are perhaps more experienced than me. She is 10.5 months old (but was 5 weeks early) and still isn’t crawling, pulling up to stand or cruising/anything like that. I’ve had a look at the ages and stages questionnaires and she seems to be doing ok in other areas but I’m not sure just how wide the range of development is for gross motor?

I do suffer with anxiety and I have always worried that she isn’t doing ‘what she should be’ as first it was rolling and now it’s crawling/working towards walking. My little girl can sit really well and will kind of push forward from sitting and get onto all fours but that’s as far as she gets!

Sorry to waffle. Just looking for a bit of advice/other people’s experiences. Thanks x

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OaxacaChihuahua · 10/08/2021 11:07

There’s a really wide range for crawling - between 6 and 12 months is normal.

You can always speak to your health visitor if you’re not sure, but I wouldn’t be worried about it yet.

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 11:12

Thank you! I feel like my health visitor fobs me off a bit because she just assumes it’s me being anxious so I don’t really get anywhere with her. She’s definitely trying to crawl but it’s so hard not to worry when much younger babies are doing it already! Thank you for the advice x

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PJday41 · 10/08/2021 11:12

Neither of my DC crawled until they were a year old. They didn't walk unaided until they were 18 months. I panicked with my eldest, but with my second just accepted I had two late movers.

They are 8 and 6 now and neither sit still. There is no normal with children, just a range. Having more than one definitely helps with that. Even when I do everything the same, they both developed differently.

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 11:18

I think you’re so right - if I had a second I wouldn’t worry half as much about the stuff I have with my first. I think my girl will be very much the same and is definitely a late moved. This doesn’t bother me at all as long as it’s not a red flag for something being amiss if that makes sense. Thanks for the advice x

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loopyapp · 10/08/2021 11:20

Can I gently suggest that you look at managing your anxiety. If you've made several posts already and been told by your HV that nothing's wrong and you're still unable to accept that then your biggest issue isn't your daughters development x

SherryPalmer · 10/08/2021 11:25

Your health visitor is fobbing you off because your dd’s development (based on what you’ve written here) sounds completely normal for her age. Crawling isn’t really a milestone at all (because some babies don’t ever crawl) and they pull up to stand some time before they are about 1 year.

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 11:35

Thank you for the comments regarding my anxiety. I have actually had CBT recently to address it so I promise I am trying haha. My daughter was recently hospitalised with bronchiolitis and I think that has sparked it off again as I was doing quite well before this. But unfortunately it’s a process. Thanks for the concern x

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pinkmoon18 · 10/08/2021 11:37

She sounds absolutely fine op!
Some don't even crawl!
Each go at their own pace

gooseygoosey12345 · 10/08/2021 11:41

If it makes you feel better my daughter never crawled. She kind of shuffled around then just got up and walked around 1 year old. Honestly they're all so different. My friends little boy is 8 months and is walking with a push along toy. If she's sitting well that's a great thing. I bet she's better in other areas like fine motor skills or language. They all have their thing, but by time school starts they're all more or less around the same level!
It's also great that you've recognised your anxiety, have they given you coping skills for every day moments of anxiety?

BazWazzycantdance · 10/08/2021 11:44

My little one didn’t even crawl; went straight from sitting and shuffling on bum to walking at 13 months. Couldn’t even roll over and still really doesn’t but is now waking confidently and trying to run. They’ll get there in their own time. 🙂

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 11:45

Thank you - I’ve got some coping strategies but I also have a bit of a plan to get back in touch if necessary which it seems like it might be at the moment. It’s just so hard - you think you’re feeling better and then something comes along to knock you again! Thank you x

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 11:46

Also thanks for all these stories of your little ones - don’t think it helps that I don’t have many friends with babies and spent most of her early life in lockdown so I’m quite isolated at times x

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mynameiscalypso · 10/08/2021 11:51

I never crawled as a baby (my lovely DM says it was because I was too fat and I couldn't heave my stomach off the floor...) and my gross motor skills are perfectly fine! There's such a huge variety of what's normal - one thing thing has helped me is to realise that babies can't be good at everything! They only have limited resources and have to focus so my DS, for example, was slow to talk but was fast at other things (his fine motor skills for example). It's totally reflective of his personality and what he enjoys. I don't know any babies who are advanced across the spectrum of all of their skills because it's just not how they work. While you're worrying about how your baby's gross motor skills compare to another baby's, their parent is probably worried about how their communication or fine motor skills or whatever compare to yours.

DoingItMyself · 10/08/2021 11:53

My baby never crawled at all, and she's fine. She stood up and was off.

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JunoBJB · 10/08/2021 12:03

Thank you! I think you’re right - her fine motor skills seem really good to me and she’s such a chatty little thing too. I never crawled either actually - apparently I was quite content to just sit there and have things passed to me haha. Thanks everyone x

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NotMyselfWithoutCoffee · 10/08/2021 12:19

Hi.

My DS didn't start crawling until around 10 months and then took 2 months to get the hang of it (went commando then all fours).
He was late sitting, probably around 8 to 9 months but now he's got great motor skills.
Only just started cruising around 12 months and still not walking! He is 14 months now 15 on the 24th.
I was really anxious as he took so long to sit unassisted but now I don't worry anymore, they do it in their own time. Every baby is different, my dh didn't even crawl when he was a baby.

thesunwillout · 10/08/2021 12:49

My dd concentrated on chatting alot, all her energy went into learning words.
She never rolled over, just lay there which was actually quite handy.

Late to crawl, late to walk.

She's at university now.

Don't worry xxx

Timeturnerplease · 10/08/2021 21:27

I had a very angry non crawler - had severe reflux though so couldn’t ever get on her tummy to practise without projectile vomiting. She pulled to stand at 10 months and very rapidly progressed to cruising and walking from there - it was all very sudden, no prior warning.

She’s now 2.5 and still weaker in areas of gross motor skills, but miles ahead in terms of language and understanding. She speaks like a four year old, according to her nursery. So I like to think that all of the time she spent being immobile and angry about it had a positive impact in giving her chance to absorb and learn language.

Vicky1989x · 10/08/2021 21:31

If it helps my DD was 4 weeks premature, didn’t crawl until almost 11 months and didn’t pull to stand and cruise until after she turned 1. She’s 15 months now and still not walking! Some babies just like to take their time.

sarahc336 · 10/08/2021 21:38

Dd 1 didn't even show any interest in trying to crawl until 11 months when she started nursery. She finally crawled at 1 and only walked on her own at 17 months which is also quite late. It totally normal, she was just a bit lazy and preferred to put her brain power into learning new words etc instead. All kids are different xx

purpleme12 · 10/08/2021 21:42

My child was 5 weeks early like yours.
She didn't sit till 9 months (which is actually still in the normal range, just people don't seem to realise that)
She never crawled but she bum shuffled at 11 months.
And walked at 17 months
I'd have to get the baby book out to check and pulling herself up and cruising
I never worried about her I know she was fine
Yours sounds like she's doing just fine to me

Phoenix76 · 10/08/2021 22:15

Agree with everyone else. My first also attracted “sympathetic” glances in baby group as she was exactly like your dd at that age. None of the health professionals even batted an eyelid. I agree that anxiety will be whispering negative thoughts in your ear and if you listen to it you’ll find it gets more power (been there - and also got worse thanks to both of them needing hospital stays/visits early on). Both of mine (8&5), are now non stop and my first went on to win school races with ease so please try to stop worrying and enjoy her, I really wish I hadn’t spent so much time with my stomach in knots thinking something was wrong.

Echobelly · 10/08/2021 22:21

DS didn't start crawling until a few weeks short of 1st birthday.

GreenTortoise · 10/08/2021 22:38

Babies are so different and I wouldn't be worried at 10.5 months old.

For example. My DS crawled by 8 months and was walking by 10 months.

One of my nephews didn't even attempt to crawl. Started bum shuffling and walked at around 14/16 months.

One of my other nephews couldn't even sit unaided until about 8 months and started drawing around 12 months and walking a little bit after that.

They all vary so much, try not to worry!

GreenTortoise · 10/08/2021 22:39

Crawling not drawing.

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