Travelling with a new born

[Jade97]

I'm going to speak to my midwife etc when I next see them but looking for some advice from other mums too. I'm due to give birth in 3 days time. I know nothing is set and she could come whenever or any after complications for her or myself etc could change all this, but I'm basing it on her being here and it being straight forward. We've had a death in the family and potential funeral date could be around 10 days after she's born. My first question is if that's the case, should I even really go with her? cause it going also doesn't even seem an option. Second point is, the funeral is 3 hours away? Travelling that far with a newborn really feasible? Obviously would stop 100 times if necessary? I just don't know what the right thing to do is, really wouldn't want to miss it but baby and health obviously is important? Sorry for the long message! Ans again all depends on her actually being born by then and health etc as if not, i definitely won't be going. Thankyou!!

Sorry for your loss.

DS and I had his first overnight trip at 9 days old, journey time was about an hour. I asked the MW about travel time and she said an hour would be fine, and if you’re sitting in the back keeping an eye on airways then that’s good too.

However, other than a slight postpartum haemorrhage, I had a straightforward delivery. It was uncomfortable, I sat on a cushion. We also timed it with a feed just before we left, know he would last the hour.

We are going to a wedding this weekend, he’ll be 4 weeks. It’s 4 hours away and we’re allowing 6.

I think you need to do what’s right for you and your baby. I would say it’s doable but it depends on a number of as yet unknown factors.

Good luck.

I would have been able to do it with both of mine I think. See how you feel, how feeding is going, book an overnight or long lunch half way there?
Sorry for your loss.

I travelled 3 hrs to my grandparents stone setting 2 weeks after a fairly traumatic birth. We stopped regularly for decent chunks of time and stayed a few days so it wasn't rushed. It wasn't easy but I was glad I went. Personally I wouldn't plan anything and just see how you feel.

To be honest, I wouldn't have wanted to travel far with such a young baby. It was bad enough walking around the corner to a shop, pushing a pram - not that I did after ten days. I much preferred being at home indoors - and I had a perfectly normal, easy birth.

Op, I doubt anybody will expect it of you so don't worry.

Is the funeral being live streamed? You could watch it online from home. Not the same as being there but it does mean you can hear all the tributes. I’m with the don’t go camp. The baby could start crying in the middle of the service and you’d miss it all anyway .

With my first baby, I could have run there at 10 days.

With my second, I couldn’t stand up straight at 10 days.

How you’ll be, how your baby will be, are anyone’s guess.

No i don't think it's feasible. Even if you do make it to the funeral, you will not be present. You will likely be emotionally exhausted, physically drained, and basically on another planet. It's extremely likely that you will not give birth on your due date. And you might have to spend a couple of nights on the post natal ward on top of that.

I'm sorry for your loss, perhaps you could think of another way you can mark the passing of your loved one, that works for you. Anyone decent will understand.

Is travelling with a cushion in between an abdominal scar and a seat belt a good idea? ! In much the way it isn’t advised for young children to wear puffy/padded coats under seat belts.

I would say leave your plans flexible . I could and did travel when DC were that age but I had easy births. A stay overnight would help but otherwise just have lots of breaks and allow plenty of time for the journey . It is doable if you really want to be there .

@CallMeRisley

Not a clue, but I've seen a lot of people reccomend it. I was fine without, even over a section of particularly vicious speed bumps 😜