How did you come to terms with being done?

[Mommabear20]

DH and I have just welcomed our 2nd DC, DH now wants to get a vasectomy as is adamant that he doesn't want any more biological children (we've always had a desire to adopt) but im not 100% sure I'm ready to say 'no more'.
I won't however, have another if he's not 100% on board, so am having to come to terms with the fact that this is our last baby. I know there are so so many amazing things to look forward to as our DC grow up, but how did you come to terms with being done having babies if you wanted more?

Talking and taking on board the wishes of you and your partner. It’s hard if one does want something and the other doesn’t. At some point there has to be compromise and acceptance and not holding onto feelings of regret

My second DC is now 18 months and I always said I’d be done after him but it’s still hard to completely close that door; DH and I have talked about a vasectomy and as much as it has a lot of pros I’m worried about what if we change our mind in the next few years.
I do look forward to the next few years though of our children developing their independence in little ways and gradually getting a bit of time back

DH & I both wanted more DC. However pregnancy seriously damaged my health (I'm disabled with a chronic illness which I developed nearly 20 years ago, but was fit & fairly well, working full time with no issues prior to pregnancy). It's still not improved (DD is 9, I'm 40). By the time DD was 4 & I was still not improving, I realised it probably wouldn't be possible. It took a while to get over it though, for both of us. DD has always wanted a little brother & we've had to explain to her (multiple times) that I'm not well enough for another baby.

Sometimes I look at people with large families & feel that life is really unfair. Mostly, it's ok though. It took a long time.