Relocation to new city as single parent, how to coparent?

[LoneParent101]

Hi, I'd love some advice or opinions on this please. My son is 8 and for as long as I have remembered I have wanted to move to a new city, for better job opportunities and because my friends live down in the midlands.
When I have brought this up to my sons dad he gets very angry and starts threatening court for custody. He says I can go as long as I leave my son here which obviously I couldn't do. I did offer to drive or travel up every other week and he could come down to see him and then school holidays keep him etc. But still unreasonable he says, which I can understand but it's causing resentment because I feel trapped in the city I'm living in currently.

Has anyone moved city in a similar situation? If so how did you handle your ex and coparenting or am I horrible for even considering it?
I don't believe he would win custody if he did try as I am main parent and deal with all the serious stuff he's more the 'fun parent'. Please help 😔

How far away are we talking and have you got a job lined up?

2-4 hours approx and I work from home so I'd take my work with me and apply for local jobs while I'm there. But financially wouldn't be an issue

I think 4 hours is a huge difference to 2 hours personally.

How often does your ex see your DS? If it's every weekend, 4 hours is an 8 hour round trip for you. 4 hours is also a long time for your DS to be in a car regularly.

It can work though. I know someone who moved from the SE to the NW. Her ex has them regularly for chunks of the school holidays and that seems to suit them all.

And as you say, he can apply fir full custody but that's really not how things work. The Court will want the child to have regular contact with both parents.