Good books to help transition from one child to two

[pregnabrain]

Hello there

I'm three-ish months preg with my second baby and I was wondering if anyone could recommend good book(s) to read to prepare us for toppling our PFB off her pedestal .

I've heard of one called Siblings Without Rivalry - is it any good?

ta in advance

I think Siblings without rivalry is better for older siblings.

Have to say that I'm not sure that many of the books are that useful for this particular stage as so much depends on your particular circs - are you working etc. MN is possibly the best resource. There is one book - the title escapes me other than that it includes "no hairbush" which was worth a read, but I wouldn't buy it at full price.

Think it's called something like 'three socks, one shoe and no hairbrush' - I got it 2nd hand from amazon and have to say i found it extremely negative and scaremongering - all about how difficult it is, 2nd birth/pregnancy is more difficult, sibling rivalry is awful, you'll fall out of love with your firstborn etc etc.

Now I still haven't had my secondborn (due in a week!) so maybe she's right but it certainly didn't help

Fraid it's the only one I've read though so can't reccommmend any others. there is one called 'one child to two' by Judy somebody but don't know if it's any good

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hello

Thanks for these replies (and the bump!).

The hairbrush book sounds terrifying. I really, really don't need anyone telling me the second labour will be WORSE than the first time .

Of course, am planning to use Mumsnet as my first port of call for every crisis, but I fancied reading a book about it while I still have the chance. Gawd knows, I won't when the baby arrives.

Might flick through the Siblings book in the shop and see - thanks for the warning about the age thing, LadyMuck.

I got the hairbrush one and am glad to hear that someone else found it as negative as I did.

I'm still pregnant with no.2 so don't have any advice at this stage but will keep an eye on this thread!!

I just read interesting book called They Started It How to help your kids get on, got it from Amazon. It has a whole chapter about going from one to two, and other stuff about birth order, gender, treating them fairly, some stuff about fighting for older ones too. Worth a look.

I read the Hairbrush book whilst pregnant with Ds, and have to say I was a leettle concerned , however it wasn't nearly as bad as I had imagined, so I took it as a goos thing, I knew what to look out for but the reality was far better. Which was reassuring - I felt like a great parent coz it wasn't nearly as hard as the book described!