Ill constantly since having a child

[itscomplicatedlife]

I have a 2yo and I'm I'll constantly!!! I'm so fed up of it! I have a mouth full of ulcers for about 2 wks that aren't subsiding. Come out in a stinking cold again, only got rid of a bad one a wk ago and ill again! She goes to nursery so it's gonna be from there but god how long does this go on for as I feel near collapse I'm exhausted?

It's been since a year ago when she started nursery.

I work full time and considering dropping a day of work and take her out the nursery, I could drop 2 but I'm worried I'll be more knackered as she's high energy, I think 1 day will be enough I can't imagine how I'd cope with her all day for two extra days with her feeling this ill either, work is prob less stressful 🤦‍♀️

Mouth ulcers are a sign of vitamin B12 deficiency. It maybe worth taking a multivitamin if you don’t already and speaking to your GP.

@Pissinthepottyplease I do take these everyday always have to boost my energy I think I'm run down maybe my daughter has a terrible cough which she's got an inhaler for now but it's been months of no sleep and she still wakes occasionally just feel fed up tbh

@Pissinthepottyplease you know the symptoms of b12 deficiency sound so similar
To what I'm experiencing I might just see if I can get my levels tested to see about this, thank you!

Getting ill so often is usually a sign of vitamin deficiencies and/or not getting enough or poor quality sleep.
You could try less working days but keep lo in nursery so you have some R&R time.
It is a good idea to have your bloods done too to see what your body may be lacking.

@Chelyanne Aww thank you! Yes we had an horrendous nihht with lo she was up from 1.30 it was awful we have no idea why she hasn't a temp or signs of being unwell but we decided i need to drop 2 days im dead on my feet I need 1 day to rest and another to take her out the nursery as the bugs affect her chest so badly! Just got an appt with Gp to discuss these awful ulcers too, it's strange I stopped taking my b12 over a month ago as didn't think I needed them it could be coincidence that these have come out since I stopped so be interesting to see the bloods off them, they've got a bit better since I started them again 2 days ago! But they were getting worse for almost 3 wks x x

For us it got better age around 3 and a half having had endless coughs and colds yself caught from my poor DD who caught every cold virus going. It is utterly exhausting when you are working full time, I've been there. And my DD is now 11 and basically bullet-proof. Her immune system is the best ever! She has literally never had a day off school sick. So it really does seem to pay off in the end.

My best advice is, let housework slide and get a cleaner if you can afford it even once a fortnight, rest as much as you humanly can, tell any relatives who want to visit they have to come to you, don't waste energy dragging yourself off to visit people, use holidays to rest rather than trying to pack in lots of exciting trips.

You said you are seeing your GP, which would be my first call.
How often are you outdoors- I know its what granny says, but fresh air an exercise are brilliant immunity boosts- walking to or from nursery, for example.
Your periods are okay? My DD takes an iron and vit supplement drink to give her a boost on hers.

Update; it looks like we've all got hand foot and
Mouth!! 😳 the ulcers just kept coming but crikey it's rough, we have no hand and foot blisters but 2 gps think this is what it is! Wow it's tiring and being so run down doesn't help as DD gets it all! Abs drained but it is finally subsiding nearly 2 wks on. dH came out with his ulcers about 2 days ago and covered in them, no wonder I felt shocking crikey!! Thanks all for your replies too x x x

@RainingZen I think we're going to be the same, she picks everything up but it hasn't helped as looking very likely she has asthma too so it all get on her chest and she's ill such a pain! We're all knackered and yes survival mode all the time just early nights for almost 2 yrs so far, gutted as I'm 37 this year and really wanted another and running out of time but I just don't know if I would survive another if it was like this abs it's such a hard decision as I feel like death most days. Thanks a lot for such great tips too x x x

@Saidtoomuch looks very likely that we had hand foot and mouth app!! It's bloody horrible but we've been lucky to have no blisters on the hands and feet app that's quite common but god those ulcers are something else, DH broke out 2 days ago loads of red dots roof of mouth which I had myself when his came out as I had a reflate and noticed so many of them. Being run down by so many bugs isn't helping just hope I survive all these constant bugs. I hardly got ill pre kids now it's every 1-2 wks!! 🤦‍♀️😩

Poor you, my DD has done hand foot and mouth, really horrid. Luckily I didnt catch it though, for a change!

Just to say, like the crazy person I am, I had a second child age 42 so it is possible you haven't run out of time. But just to note history is repeating itself, my DS is just as germ-ridden as my DD was.

I breast fed both of them too. Feel quite cheated!

I was the same when kids were little! You should get your bloods checked at your GP just in case you are iron deficient, thyroid issues etc. Take some good multi vits - I like Floradix for being under the weather. But defo get bloods done too

@RainingZen Wow good for you!! We don't have a lot of family and have such a lovely
Little girl but worry so much about her being an only, she's really sociable and showing a great soh atm so she will be ok but I think shed love a brother or sister! God these ulcers just never seem to stop, it's vile x x x

My 3dcs never went to nursery and luckily when they started preschool weren't hit hugely with much illness but I know from my brother's kids who went that they were sick constantly for a while as kept picking things up. Do they get much fresh air in nursery? I swear this and breastfeeding is why my dcs weren't ill very much and even now older they are rarely ill, they are outside more than they are inside all year round, thankfully they love that and need it as they are all v active.
However, I definitely got seriously run down as two of my kids didn't sleep for years and years, we are talking 7 years of interrupted sleep as 3 kids close in age so lack of sleep massively affected my immune system , I second getting bloods done and checking iron, I ended up with anemia and I believe my heavy periods and vit deficitincy was a direct result of sleep deprivation over years. Do you get enough sleep ?

@Drainedagain2 omg that sounds horrific for you! Sleep is so important isng it but I do understand where you're coming from as our DD only started to sleep through after about a year but then it was totally on and off due to her chest infections she had constantly for whicu shes trialling an inhaler now for suspected asthma she woke a lot coughing and being sick it was horrendous. My sleep was so badly affected even when she wasn't waking I couldn't turn off as was expecting to be woken so yeah I 100% think my immune system has been affected. DD is 2yo now abs im close to 37 this year I really want another but me and my DH are so drained from the experience it's totally put us off daring to go there again plus ant family we have never offered to help which was a shock for us, it's a sad situation to be in as our dd we feel would love a sibling as she's so sociable and so much family don't bother to visit her abs we don't know why! We're in this massive dilemma atm as my clock is ticking and my immune system is still far from recovered x x

That's really hard @itscomplicatedlife and sounds like you have been through a tough time. I totally hear you on the age, I had mine relatively young, last at 33 but it was a few insane years and nobody in each of our families ever, ever helps, I've taken kids to dental appointments etc....
I will say it is way easier now they are older and they all play together (4,7,10) but I totally get you that it's so hard to think of another when you are exhausted.
Can you possibly give yourself a few months fo recover , build yourself up, try and get plenty of sleep and extra vitamins and reevaluate?

@Drainedagain2 it is,
Life can be a git sometimes it really can! I'm going to see how we go for the next 3-6 months and try and make the decision then but I don't want to leave it any longer than then it's just so sad for our LG I just feel like we have no one around us that ever wants any active involvement and breaks my heart for her esp being so knackered to not be sure whether we could do it again, I know I could be pitting my health at risk if the next one ends up being as exhausting as this one esp if they both end up being ill and me or DH also, just a lot to think about, thanks so much for your reply x x x

I was iron deficient (ferritin) with first baby, I felt awful all the time, couldn't stand for long on tube without needing to sit down. I got ill all the time like you, ended up on antibiotics several times in a year for a couple of UTIs, a chest infection and an ear infection. Second baby was much easier with easier pregnancy, I didn't get ill anywhere near as often. I prioritised sleep where I could i.e. going to bed very early when she was a newborn, I know it's hard when you have young children. I had a 3 year gap, I would have found it much harder with a smaller one as my DS was pretty tough as a baby and toddler. I'd second buying in help like a cleaner where you can, it would free up a lot of time.

@forgetm you know I am wondering if it's iron deficiency also as I was terribly iron deficient when she was born, left with ferritin tablets and had remain on them for a while so they could have dropped again, I've got some over the counter tablets in the cupboard I think it's the same stuff but I'm going to start them again from tomorrow and see how that goes!! It's crazy busy though, I had the covid jab second one yest and felt bloody awful all day along with a terrible cold, cannot wait until the day all these viruses are not so often it's crazy! X x x