Parenting classes...

[juicychops]

Has anyone ever been to one?

i feel such a total failure admitting to myself that i think i need to go on one, but i think i do

i just cant deal with my ds's tantrums. He is kicking and hitting so much and really hard and no matter how hard i try and be calm, i just end up loosing my temper with him and im at my witts end.

ive tried ignoring him, naughty corner, talking calm, shouting, smacking his hand, holding him tight until he calms down, nothing works. Each time ive tried a new thing ive been consistant but still no effect.

Naughty corner is my prefered method but even after returning him there constantly for over an hour at a time he still wont stay there and gets so distressed

i really have had enough and dont know what to do

does anyone have any advice about how to deal with this behaviour, or how to find parenting classes and weather or not you think this would help me or not

how old is your DS?

Have you any idea why he is behaving like this? Apart from he's a child obviously . I mean do you think he might have a developmental problem or do you think it's just normal behaviour that you find it difficult to deal with.

Never been to a parenting class but thought I'd respond as you seem at your wits end. I get the impression you are alone with this problem. Hope I'm wrong

Juicy don't feel a failure. I have recently been on training for parenting classes and think they are a brilliant idea. Just contact your hv or his school or your gp to find one.
TBH people who run parenting classes don't have all the answers it's just about getting parents together to support one another through difficult times.
Hope you can get this sorted as you sound like you are trying really hard to help him.

I think most of us could do with some parenting advice from time to time, so its a great idea. Talk to your HV.

In the mean time , read some of the parenting books (I've read loads LOL). They can really help.

i did one!

Best ever thing i did, i didn't have a clue how to discipline effectively but kindly (was 18) i now do and have used it for ds2, and will for dd.

Do one, you are not a failure. You are fab becuase you are finding ways to do this right

Thanks for the advice

talktothebees, i dont think he has a developmental problem, i think its just bad behaviour. When he is good he is so perfect, but he hates not getting his own way and ive started to be really hard on him as he says NO all the time and hitting and kicking when he doesn't get his own way.

I haven't seen my health visitor for nearly a year so il have to track her down as i think they have moved

i just feel like i will be judged. i dont wanna get to the point where i go crazy and do something i regret

ah well, I hate not getting my own way and I'm 35!

anyone who judges you a bad parent for acknowledging you have a problem and seeking help for it, is an @rse and you should ignore them.

If you struggle to get in touch with your HV this websiteshould help you find your nearest childrens centre who should be able to advise you on parenting courses.

thanks

Ive just spoken to my old health visitor and she has given me the number for the new centre in my area but there is no one there yet.

she reasured me that lots of people go to these things and the government are setting up lots of classes next year to encourage more parents to go

I echo what LillyLoo said - just went on training for one (Webster-Stratton) and we trained mainly by doing a fast version - tried stuff on my DS and found it brill -has changed what I was doing and I thought I knew what I was doing before the course ! Helped me manage my temper which is my main prob - I just blow up. Now I feel a bit more like I have more options. Try a good one - Triple P or WEbster Stratton are recommended by the NICE guidelines ( they're sometimes called other names but the trainers should be able to say what course they're based on).

I think we should all do it as standard - after me doing it my friends are getting together to do bits. Good luck