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When is it acceptable to introduce kids to a new partner?

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Layland6 · 01/08/2021 12:42

I am a single dad looking for a bit of independent advice away from family and friend on when it is acceptable to introduce your kids to a partner.

My daughters mother has been in numerous relationships since we broke up almost 2 years ago. We agreed that we would bring anyone else into our daughters lives to protect then until it was serious and we both agreed it was time. However my daughter where introduced to the previous boyfriend when they had only been going out for a few month and due to the track record before this I wasn't happy as she wasn't getting to know the person first. This relationship ended less than a month ago and when I picked up my daughter over the weekend I was told by one of them that a man come over. I did confronted mum but she lied about it. Later on my daughter then made me aware that this man stayed over night. There is no need for this in my opinion as she has 3 nights each week to do as she please when the kids are with myself. I just believe when you have 2 young daughter you can never be to careful and that this is far too soon as this person could be anyone you don't really know someone properly for years never mind a few weeks.
I feel my daughters wellbeing are not been put first but when I approach her family I was told I was jealous and controlling.

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AuntieStella · 01/08/2021 12:53

I think you are both right and wrong

Right in that it is better to wait to introduce a new partner until you are reasonably sure you can see them in your life long-term, and then begin with introductions as 'mummy's friend' who joins them sometimes and stick at that level until happy they have passed the 'audition' to be in the DC's lives

Wrong in that you can't dictate to you XP how they live their lives, even when they do something that many people wouid consider foolish and precipitate.

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