Stranger danger education / books

[Belle82]

I would like to start having these discussions with my little girl but I honestly don’t know where to start.

Does anyone have any recommendations of ways I can approach this or books we can read together?

Thank you 😊

How old is she?

The message is 'tricky' people not stranger danger.

You discuss never keeping secrets.

Tricky people will ask you to keep secrets from mum and dad and that's wrong.

You talk about the pants rule

Not going anywhere with anyone before checking with mum or dad.- even if someone asks for help.

Agree with PP though not heard of it being 'tricky people'. To add to their last point, not going anywhere with anyone for any reason - to see puppies, to help them, because they say your parents have told them to, because they say they are police. Speak to mum or dad first because people who are bad can easily lie.

Don't focus on strangers - that's quite dangerous. If she gets separated from you for example she needs to not be scared of approaching a stranger to ask for help (eg woman with kids, someone in a uniform). Children are also far far far more likely to be abused by someone they know, so as a pp said the message needs to focus on 'tricky' people.

This is great thank you so much, this is my first time doing this so I appreciate any advice.
I have started those kinds of conversations so I will just include all the other bits of advice, thank you.

She’s 3 1/2, the reason I wanted to start so early is she’s so friendly and will happily talk to anyone and I love that and don’t want to change her but just make her aware but not terrify her.

I always told mine not to go anywhere with anyone without telling me, regardless of whether they know them or not. It might be fine to go off with Auntie Jane, but if I don't know they are with her, I might think they are lost and worry about them, no need to bring in confusion about whether someone is a stranger or not.

Hard as I have found it, I try to model the behaviour I talk about with my DDs. So if someone who feels a bit creepy comes to talk to us in a public place, I say that we don't talk to people we don't know - or whatever, so that we don't have to talk to them. With my 1980s female social conditiong, it isn't always easy, but I need my DDs to see how it is done

Strangers are generally not the issue. The vast majority of abuse is by someone know to the child. I bought the book ‘My underpants rule” for my 4 year old.

I'd like to know this too if anyone knows any links etc? My DD is a small 6 has adhd and Asd no awareness at all of safety nor danger?