indeed, scouser...sorry. Sometimes when a baby is actually very tired (an older baby, not an 8 week old) they do a certain cry which says 'I'm fed up cos I'm nearly asleep' in which case no, I still wouldn't let them 'cry it out' for 10 minutes...I would pick them up and walk around with them, gently boouncing/rocking them close to me till they stopped and went to sleep.
It might be that they have a tummy ache, imagine when you have indigestion and it is horrible to be in certain positions like lying down...they can't tell you if they are in pain.
I think crying is never actually good for them. Sometimes it's hard to find a reason for it, hard to get them comfy or happy enough to stop - doesn't mean you should just leave them to it imo.
There is incontravertable evidence that leaving a small baby to cry raises certain hormone levels in its brain, which in turn set a pattern for the rest of its life. Babies who are left to cry are more prone to stress and depression later in life. The first 6 months of a baby's life are crucially important to the healthy development of its brain etc.
Mindy please be confident, for all we know your dp's other children might be far less secure than yours will be . He isn't the expert just because he's 'done it before'.
My ex used to think he was king of childcare because his kids were older. I thought they seemed pretty miserable personally, poor things...he was mortally pissed off when I refused to beat my children!!!! And he hadn't even done that to his, just wanted me to do what he said.
I ditched him