My mum is very generous to my family, but she loves to bring it up and it’s really toxic to me.
My husband and I are not struggling for money, but we have a lot of house costs at the moment, a new baby and I’m on maternity leave. So she has helped buy things for the house and baby. The problem is she likes to make it known she is paying our way. She often tells people that she bought something or she will be sorting this or that. Also say we have something for the baby, she will ask constantly, ‘is that the one I bought’ or ‘ I know it was expensive but I don’t mind’
It’s made my husband turn a bit sour to it as he doesn’t like to feel like a charity and it is embarrassing when she goes in about it all the time.
Also we are renovating our house and she dictates to me what to do, I tell her it's not worth spending money on and she will say, well it doesn't matter I'll pay for it. But there's no consideration to what we actually want. I feel like we are just a project to her.
Basically, my mum is obsessed with money and it’s making me feel shit about myself. I need the help and I’m grateful but how do I tell her that her attitude is toxic.