You are not a bad mum for losing it and yelling sometimes (or feeling the urge to spank). You are probably over-tired, over-worked, under appreciated. Most of us yell without meaning to, because we are so exhausted. I know some beautiful mums who have lost it and even spanked their children once or twice. yes they regretted it. yes they were at the end of their tether.
You are not a bad mum for using screen time. Unless you have an amazing, continual support roster you're probably going to need to use it to just give yourself a break, even for 10 minutes. Even if you don't, don't judge other mums. A bit of screen time will not hurt them.
You're not a bad mum for not enjoying motherhood. The messages we get about it are false. Everyone's situation is different therefore some will enjoy it and some won't. It's ultimately a tiring, montonous, unpredictable thing and it's okay to not like it. We are not all mums in a huggies ad.
You're not a bad if you're a single mum, a mum struggling with mental illness, a mum who forgot to brush her children's teeth, always give them organic food, or have a house that looks like a tip. You're not a bad mum just because your child throws a tantrum. You're not a bad mum for not constantly having a well turned out child, for not doing amazing educational activities all the time.
I'm tired of all the judgements that are thrown at parents. we do not live in a society where mums are supported adequately so most of them are doing what they can to balance all theirs and their children's needs.
Just in case anyone, including myself, needed to hear this.