Help! My baby screams when she doesn’t want to do something

[Elliejellie]

My daughter is 11 months old, she’s advanced for her age she says some words and has been walking a while. This week she has started screaming and throwing herself about if she doesn’t want to do something like getting dressed, going in her car seat. I really don’t know how to react or what to do 😭

Frustrated toddlers are so loud. Sympathy. Just keep talking to her and encouraging her to use her words. It's all a phase.

Try giving her choices: "do you want to wear the red dress or the yellow?" "Do you want mummy to put your top on or you try to do it yourself?" It gives them a sense of being more in control but the choices are ones you want them to make.

@Alannawhorideslikeaman

Try giving her choices: "do you want to wear the red dress or the yellow?" "Do you want mummy to put your top on or you try to do it yourself?" It gives them a sense of being more in control but the choices are ones you want them to make.

Does this actually work? Because when DD (who has just turned 2) doesn’t want to get dressed and I ask, “do you want to wear the blue top or the red top”, I just get a “NO!” in response.

@Wanttocry "oh well, that's a shame. I thought we wanted to go to the park, but oh well" and then offer the red or the yellow dress. If not I'd take them away to do something else for 5 minutes (make a glass of water, sing a song etc) and then offer up the choice again.

If mine said no to the choices of clothes, I’d shrug & say oh well, shame we can’t go to the park.. to be honest, my kids have zero choice on clothes 😂 I just say I’m going to get clothes for you & come back with them. My 4 year old is expressing more of an opinion now admittedly but you can reason with her! I still buy all her clothes. If I let her choose she’d be in luminous pink sequins all week. No thanks 😂

@Elliejellie - completely normal I’m afraid. Both mine started the toddler tantrums around 10 months. Enjoy these relatively minor ones.. they get much worse 🙈 The car seat thing is difficult, you just have to wrestle! Or try bring her out of the tantrum, at that age, food would often work. Can you give her a rice cake or something?

Learning sign language / makaton was brilliant for my Dd, she rarely cried as she could communicate what she wanted long before she was able to form the words. You could use signs from Mr Tumble, youtube videos and incorporate them into nursery rhymes or just make up your own.

However, she was still a pro at arching her back to avoid going in the pushchair or rolling around instead of laying down for nappy changes om 18months. Pretty standard for their age.