Day to day with a baby

[PlanetTeaTime]

What do you do day-to-day?

This morning my partner got up at 6:30 to walk the dog, I managed to get the baby back to sleep, then partner said bye at 8am. Cat woke me yelling so I left baby sleeping to get some breakfast.

Baby woke about 8:45, changed and dressed her. Washed my face, brushed teeth and dressed myself.

9:30 started to feed her to go for another nap (she usually has an extra sleep around this time) but my mum rang and me talking on the phone disrupted her so she wouldn't go down. My mum was asking if I wanted to go for a walk at the beach at lunch time with the dogs, I had to decline because it's so hot at the moment, we can't use a pram on the beach so I would have to use a carrier and it's like 25 plus it will be mobbed and dog will want to say hello to everyone. Can't handle the dog and the baby at a busy beach in boiling weather.

Went downstairs 10am put baby on play mat and started giving our boot room a deep clean, half way through baby starts to fuss (probably because of the missed nap) so I break off at 10:45 change her and feed again (it's more of a comfort feed though) and she FINALLY drops off at 12

If you've got this far, well done

This is my life. Am I doing it right?

What do you do day to day as a mum? Feel like I'm a boring failure and I should be doing better

Sounds about right. How old is your baby? In
September Mum and baby groups will start again after the summer holidays and they are good places to meet other Mums.

No advice @PlanetTeaTime but following with interest if you don’t mind as I feel somewhat the same at the moment! What age is your baby? My little boy is 9 weeks.

Not at all. There are theories which suggest the opposite is true. Remember at this age SIDS guidelines are all naps should be with an adult in the room.

Wrong thread! Sorry,

@Pissinthepottyplease @CoffeeMonkey

Sorry I should have said, she's 5 months!

@CoffeeMonkey I wouldn't have been able to put her down at 9 weeks to clean the boot room haha I fed her near constantly then! If she had just dropped off this morning I wouldn't have had to glue myself to the sofa this long.

Did you think being a mum would be like this?

Sounds like you're doing ok to me! Are you finding it all a bit... dull? I am. I have a beautiful, healthy 7-week-old, but the day-to-day is incredibly boring. It's too hot here to go out (Spain), I've no family here, and DD refuses to be put down EVER even in a pram so I'm basically sitting all day in our only air-conditioned room breastfeeding. DH is back to work in a couple of weeks, and I'm so jealous even though I hate my job!

How old is your baby? Can you play or at least interact with her?

I currently am on mat leave with my second (16 weeks). Last time I felt like I needed to be attending daily baby groups, park visits, picnics in order to be doing my best for my baby even though I found it stressful and tiring. This time round I haven’t been to any classes due to the high covid rates in my area and we have been been relaxing at home/ she naps whilst I get some long awaited pairing and DIY done. I am much happier this time round and DD is just as cheery and sociable as her brother was.

Babies are very boring (ime) and I actually went back to work at 3 months. We did shared parental leave and I'm really glad we did!

It does get more interesting when they can sit up, play with toys, crawl/cruise and generally interact more. Then you will have a toddler and won't be able to sit down or take your eyes off them for a second. But I'd still take the exhaustion of the toddler phase over the boring baby bit any day!

@PlanetTeaTime it’s kind of what I thought it would be like in some ways but also not others… I think I had envisaged us getting out & about more but to be honest I feel too exhausted most of time, I had an emergency section & am still sore & tired at times which doesn’t help.

I’m hoping as my little boy gets a bit bigger & I feel a bit stronger (maybe with more sleep 🤞🏻🤞🏻) then will we will get out for more/ longer walks, to meet friends etc

Also hoping to join some Mum & Baby groups as @Pissinthepottyplease has suggested, have started looking into these already for when they hopefully open up again

Yeah it’s fairly monotonous. I’d do classes, go for lots of walks and meet people. I don’t know how people have managed through the pandemic.
During naps I took the time for myself to do something for me.
It got better when he was more interactive and now at age 2 he’s just loads of fun. I much prefer toddler to baby!

I mean this nicely but it sounds like normal life, doesn't it? Wake up, deal with pets, breakfast, get dressed, chat to mother on phone, do a household chore... What would your day have been like if you didn't have a baby?

Like I said I mean this nicely, sometimes if I'm bored with dc it helps me to think about what I'd realistically be doing otherwise - I'd still have a normal, sometimes boring, life.

@LaMadrilena

Sounds like you're doing ok to me! Are you finding it all a bit... dull? I am. I have a beautiful, healthy 7-week-old, but the day-to-day is incredibly boring. It's too hot here to go out (Spain), I've no family here, and DD refuses to be put down EVER even in a pram so I'm basically sitting all day in our only air-conditioned room breastfeeding. DH is back to work in a couple of weeks, and I'm so jealous even though I hate my job!

How old is your baby? Can you play or at least interact with her?

Yes! I'm very bored. My daughter is 5 months. I miss my job but equally when the time comes I don't know if I will be able to leave her to go back

@Zippy1510

I love this, I wish I could enjoy it. I'm glad you feel happy this time round

@Ihaveoflate

I can't even imagine what I'm going to do when I can't put her down and come back and she still be there!

She can't sit up yet without my assistance, what sort of age do they usually start sitting, crawling etc?

@TreeSmuggler

I mean this nicely but it sounds like normal life, doesn't it? Wake up, deal with pets, breakfast, get dressed, chat to mother on phone, do a household chore... What would your day have been like if you didn't have a baby?

Like I said I mean this nicely, sometimes if I'm bored with dc it helps me to think about what I'd realistically be doing otherwise - I'd still have a normal, sometimes boring, life.

I guess I would be busy at work, I don't know what I'd be doing I'm an estate agent and the job is varied. I like my job but I guess it would normal life of I was there. Everyone else seems to be able to go do and everything is harder because constantly having to think of when she needs to sleep, when she needs to be fed

I guess I miss people and being able to say "I did this today" rather than every day blurring into one

@PlanetTeaTime

My daughter sat up unaided at 6 months but didn't crawl until 10 months and looking back, this was a golden time in childcare - enough awareness and motor skills to entertain herself with a treasure basket but still stayed where she was put!

I really would recommend getting out of the house at least once a day, even if it's to the supermarket or for a coffee. It brings a bit of structure to the day and breaks up the monotony.

When I was on Mat leave and my husband said 'what did you do today?' my response was always 'kept a tiny human alive' - that's enough for now. And it can be really, really dull.

I used to go for a walk out everyday, round our local park/lake.
Walked up to shopping centre and looked round shops.
Went to cafes for a coffee and something to eat whilst he napped in Pram.
Met up with friends in parks, blanket on grass and baby toys and coffees for us!
We done 2 baby classes a week.
Some days I just needed a day in the house!

Just some ideas for you! It's good to get out and about for your own sanity sometimes!

It sounds normal to me. Maybe a walk out, baby groups etc to get you out the house would make you feel a bit less bored

I used to always take mine out, often only as far as the supermarket for some reduced to clear items for tea, also playgroups, park etc. Once they were toddlers I had membership for local zoo and aquarium so I could go whenever I wanted (we took a packed lunch at least once a week)

I have a 7 week old. I've watched 3 films today. Not left the house as it's too hot and muggy. Have been feeding on and off all day (due to the heat- he's extra thirsty.

I try to enjoy these days because they are numbered!