At the end of my tether. Sleep related

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My 15 month old WILL NOT SLEEP. She has always been clingy to me (breastfed, lockdown baby). I can’t bear to hear her cry and don’t believe in CIO but we resorted to gentle sleep training at ten and thirteen months to try and get her to sleep more.
Tonight (typical night) it took over an hour to settle her to sleep. I have since been up 10-12 times to resettle her. Our neighbours must hate us.
No idea what to do. Easy answer is bring her into my bed and let her feed on and off all night but that’s what caused the worsening sleep last time. Any ideas?

What method of sleep training did you try OP?

Will she cosleep with your partner?

What are her nap times and her times like?

Are you managing to keep her room cool?

The heat at the moment is making it so much harder for little ones to sleep.

I would ride out this heat wave and then try controlled crying. Saved my sanity when I did it with my 2 year old and they only ever cried for 4 min in a row. Then slept through!

Thanks everyone. Just saw these replies. We did the ferber method.

She won’t settle for anyone but me. She SCREAMS the house down if DH tries to comfort her at night. I was cross with myself last night for snapping at 2am (shouted go to sleep and she looked scared). Tonight she fell asleep in 15 mins. Hopefully it’s just the heat.

Oops @Pissinthepottyplease she has:
6.45 wake up
9:30-10 nap
1.30-3 nap
7 bed

We have just gone through a stage of our 9month old taking about half an hour to go down, then waking every 2.5/3 hours, resulting in me bringing her into our bed and her boobing on and off, much like you. So I really feel for you and know the feeling of wanting your bed back and sleep!
We did the Ferber method, but adapted it. So we would go in at intervals of
2mins
2mins
5mins
5mins
10mins
Then either every 10 or 15 after that depending on how she seemed. Or going in as she was about to ramp up again, in order to settle quickly and let her realise she can fall asleep without us there.
The screams as we would leave the room where terrible, but I just knew that it was 'tantrum' like, if that makes sense? We went until she fell asleep, which never really went past 40/45 minutes. And that was only the first night it went on that long.
We are now a week in and she will whine for about 1 minute and then silence.

If you're wanting to try the Ferber method again then maybe see what adaptations you can do in order to suit you. You know your baby, you know how far you can push it yourself.
One thing my SIL said to me the other day was "it's so much easier to do it now when they can't get out of the cot, compared to later when they can walk out the room"

Good luck!