Kids clothes, and new area/school

[Starlive23]

I wasn't sure where to put this!
Please be gentle with me here, before we start I know my kids don't mind what clothes they wear, and I also know keeping up with the Jones' is a slippery slope..but here goes.

I'm from quite a poor background. Very happy childhood etc, well looked after but historically a very poor area.

Myself and my husband have worked hard and have managed to move with our 2 DC to a much more of a traditionally 'nice' area with better schools which I hope will translate to better opportunities for our DC.

Problem now is that where I lived before people mainly bought their children's clothes from tesco/asda (Next considered quite posh!) But where I've moved to its quite frowned upon and I have found myself learning the new rules. I don't think its sensible to suddenly start spending a fortune on designer clothes but I don't want my kids to be singled out because we are different (ie not traditionally middle class).

Feeling a bit out of my depth here, school mums seem quite judgemental of my accent anyway, but sending my daughter to nursery in a trolls top from asda was obviously a faux pas I didn't know I was making!

Got a few t shirts in the Frugi sale and they seemed nice but any other suggestions?

Doesn't help that she's the only mixed race child in her class, she seems to be worried about that too.

Will have to do my best to win people over and hope that my 'salt of the earth' personality type might come across as wildly charming

Wow I’ve never heard of stuff like this. My children and from what I can see from their friends where a real mix. I never know how you can tell anyway (not that Frugi type stuff which has its own style) but if your little girl is wearing a pair of sporty leggings who can tell if they’re Boden or Primark?! My children wear supermarket, second hand eBay bundles, the occasional thing from the Boden sale, Zara and H&M. I go for bright and colourful. And I’m in a m/c area.

Well if people are judging they are probably not very nice but I think you are right - avoid: characters, bright pink, slogans, anything princessy, leopard print, anything that makes her look like a mini teenager.
Perfectly OK to shop in supermarkets, next or whatever.

My daughter has a flourescent pink unicorn shirt that she was given - it's her absolute favourite - people do look down on us when she's wearing it!!

As a kid I didn't fit in at all clothes wise (middle class mum, working class school - I could have really done with a trolls t-shirt). I'm afraid it did affect my childhood quite a bit so I think it is better to try and fit in, even if you shouldn't have to.

@MotherOfCrocodiles that's awful, but you make a valid point. We had a few girls from more middle class backgrounds at my very working ass school and they would be trying their very hardest to look as working class as possible to fit in. School years are tough for kids and I just want to make it a little easier, after all it's taken me bloody years of hard work to get us to this nicer area, and I want her to like it and not miss her old school and friends any more than she does.
My DH saye we are like the new money lady from titanic haha, I wish!

I’m in a ‘nice’ area and have money to spend - am I HECK spending it on designer clothes for the kids to cover them in mud and out grow them in 5 seconds flat! M&S, Next, Zara and H&M are my go to shops. I get home delivery on food, but I’d certainly browse the clothes at Tesco or Asda if I frequented them more often (although I would stick to pyjamas for character clothes)

You do you!

Second hand is your friend

There is a lot of stuff on Ebay, thanks so much for suggestions. I have to admit this is something I didn't give much thought to, I've been a bit under prepared. I really appreciate all the replies, specially that everyone was really helpful and nobody has said I'm an idiot for not knowing this stuff!

These other parents sound pretty awful. I'd take it as a sign to steer clear of them and be grateful that their bad behaviour warned you off!

Fwiw, we are very middle class (both dh and I went to boarding schools), living in a very middle class area and all my dc's clothes come from Next (but nothing more fancy than that), only because I'm lazy and online ordering is easy there. Not because I wouldn't buy them something from the supermarket. I wouldn't even know where people buy their clothes. I definitely have some posh friends who only put their dc in designer clothes (I roll my eyes at that!). But I wouldn't be able to tell a supermarket top from anywhere else and I wouldn't care. Because I'm not a twat.

Sometimes when people sound their twat alarms, you just have to be thankful because no you know they are twats and you can avoid.