Is anyone else just so bored

[Crabsy]

…out of their mind? I knew parenting would be tiring and require patience. I didn’t realise how boring it would be.

Every day it’s the same. Tantrums from toddler. Trying and failing to get a baby to nap. Toddler wants to do the same things, but even she’s bored by them. Not interested in her toys even when I rotate them. DH is meant to have her two days a week (he works shift) but puts no effort into thinking of things to do with her so they just hang around the house all day with her whinging (which he never tells her off for) and if I nag him enough he will eventually take her to the park. He won’t take her to groups for reasons I don’t understand, he always comes up with an excuse. Also won’t arrange to meet friends with similar aged kids again for reasons I don’t understand. I think he just can’t be bothered to organise it. He keeps saying he’s going to take her swimming but you have to book a week in advance at the moment and he never does. On the days i have her I used to take her to stuff but baby is only a few weeks old and I don’t feel confident taking them both out to groups at the moment as baby is EBF with bad reflux and requires a lot of my attention. I can’t take her to stuff like swimming or soft play on my own with a newborn in tow.

Then it’s all the usual shit of trying to keep the house tidy, do the food shop, put the washing away, think of what to cook for tea. DH does some chores (dishwasher etc) but none of the THINKING and it’s all very tiring but mainly so bloody boring.

Not going away anywhere this summer because of Covid so every week is just the same. Watching telly, going to the park, eating the same 4 meals that the toddler will eat, over and over again.

Anyone else?

It's hard going op! Congrats on your new baby.
Does she go to nursery or anything? Do you have any preschools around? This could free up afew hours a day for you and entertainment for DD!
Any family around?
I think afew families are stuck in a rut atm so to speak, hard to try get back to normal life I think.
Could you book stuff for DH days off for him?

Yes I could book stuff for DH but I don’t really see why I have to organise him too. I am so fed up of having to be the one who thinks of everything. He has invited his parents up for lunch tomorrow and he knows that our online food shop normally comes on a Monday (which I organise) but he hasn’t said anything about what he plans to give them for lunch or when we will go to the shop to buy stuff as we don’t really have anything in that would be a proper lunch to serve them. He obviously expects me to organise that too, I bet that if I do nothing then about an hour before they arrive tomorrow he will innocently ask “what is there to give my parents for lunch?”

Maybe the reason I’m so bored is my DH. It’s one thing finding the kids a bit boring but their behaviour is age appropriate.

No I get that but atleast that way I know DC would be getting out and doing stuff.
Remind him there's nothing in and he'll have to get something.
Yeah I think he needs to be more organised and willing to do stuff with kids otherwise your going to burn out.

I've got a beautiful healthy 6-week-old and I'm just so fucking bored. She breastfeeds constantly and won't nap anywhere other than on me, so I'm basically on the sofa 20 hours a day. She needs constant help with latching so feeding her requires 2 hands, or sometimes even 3, so I can barely even hold a mobile/book. It's too hot here to go out during the day, and by 10pm when it's cooler I'm too shattered. Between this and covid I've barely been further than the park over the road in well over a year. My DH is great and is doing everything he can, but I'm starting to be glad I only get 4 months maternity leave. Sorry to hijack your post with my own rant!

Yes I feel bored too! I have a 2 year old & she is a lot of effort to keep entertained... baby is 4 months & has kind of settled into a bit more of a “routine” recently so things have got a little easier. I know what you mean though - I try & get out every morning & go somewhere different each day, I.e, a different park/playground. I’m trying to meet new mums for play dates as other toddlers keep mine occupied & it’s always good to have some adult conversation to help keep the sanity!
I have the same problem as in my partner is not proactive about taking the kids out & about so no solution there I’m afraid...
As a PP suggested - my toddler is still at the childminder 2 days a week so at least that’s 2 days a week where I don’t have to worry about organising anything! Could you put your toddler in a childminder or nursery a couple of days?

Also - by getting out & about more, baby naps on the go in the car or pram so saves the hassle of getting them to nap at home

I only have one child (2) but I agree life is beyond dull at the moment. I know covid restrictions are easing but it doesn’t feel like it…no just turning up somewhere for the day, as you had to decide a week ago that’s what you wanted to do. Have to wear a mask to go to soft play or anything which I find uncomfortable especially in the heat. Feel like I’ve lost touch with most of my friends, maybe due to having a child, more due to covid. Life feels relentless and so so dull.

Another one in the same boat. It's hard work. Everyone keeps saying it gets easier so I'm clutching at straws here.

Sorry you’re all feeling the same way. It’s just so much effort all the time, and I’m tired. I just want a nice long relaxing weekend away somewhere by myself where no one talks to me 😂

I find being a parent so boring and love being back at work! I have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. The 2 year old is becoming better company now that you can have actual conversations with him. I survive the boredom by taking at least one trip out every single day. My kids have basically grown up in National Trust and RHS gardens, parks and playgrounds. I also find it's less boring if you meet up with a friend who has kids too.

Tbh it sounds like the real problem here is your DH and not the fact that you're a parent to two little ones.