Tell me all the good things about having 2 boys

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Just that really.

Found out no 2 is a boy and we 100% wont be having a 3rd.

I'm surprised at how gutted I feel not for any of the girly girl things but just because I am.
Obviously whatever my feelings are I feel this way and don't particularly want to I hadn't realised I actually had a strong preference until they told us at the scan.

I had a tough time bonding with boy no 1 after a tough experience through pregnancy, birth and PND and a big part of me is worried about it now being a 'do-over' where just because it is a boy everything will happen in exactly the same way - I know this is not rational.

my 2.5 year old is great, hilarious and totally mad and I want to feel a bit excited about no2.
So tell me about brothers. I'm going to be surrounded by tractors, diggers and dinosaurs forever but what else?

I had those same feelings but they only lasted a few days. When did you find out op?
Honestly I love my boys and wouldn't change them for the world! They each have their own personalities, it's fantastic watching their bond developing!
You soon get used to the fact you won't get to experience that mother daughter relationship we all dream about, but you could be close to daughter in laws perhaps in the future, perhaps you might have a grand daughter? Who knows!
When he's here you wouldn't want it any other way I promise.

I have 3 boys, a 16 year old and twins who are 13. I love having boys!
They have got on well over the years, I was surrounded by cars, trains, diggers etc in the early years. They moved on to lego, Play Mobil and constantly playing outdoors on bikes and scooters.
They share some hobbies, scouts, cycling but enjoy being separate too with music lessons and building air fix models.
Passing on clothes, toys and bikes has saved us a fortune over the years. However I think we use this money to pay for the enormous food bill!

Wolf packs are fabulously loyal to each other, look after each other. Ok, they might scrap and assert their dominance but they look after everyone in their pack. They also make a lot of noise.*

*actually I know nothing about wolves, but I reckon this might be true and it’s pretty consistent about my boys.

my 2.5 year old is great, hilarious and totally mad

And your new little boy will be his own amazing person; different but just as great!

I think - in general, obviously- that it’s nicer for the kids to have a sibling of the same sex. So maybe think of it as good for DS1 that he gets a little brother?

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My two boys are 5 and 2 and they could not be more different. The older one has never shown interest in sports, the younger one has been football/balls in general mad since before he could walk. They don’t look alike, and their personalities are also completely different. It really doesn’t matter, they are children, not their sex.

I agree with this.

I have two younger brothers. They are chalk & cheese, and always have been. Despite only being 2.5 years apart in age, as children they always they had completely different personalities, levels of academic ability, interests & friends, and now as adults, they are not close.

Mine are like two puppies that pine for each other when they are not together. DS1 is out tonight and I just went in to check on DS2 who said "I keep talking to DS1 then I remember he's not here."

If I was reincarnated, and they said to me, "look you had two boys on your last shift here, what would you like this time?"

I would say two boys. If I was asked a million times I would say two boys. I feel like I hit the jackpot without knowing what the jackpot was.

Having 2 boys is amazing! Mine are both very different but close in their own way and always look out for each other. Both have been very affectionate growing up which is lovely. They have also helped me to understand men in a way I never did before

Without wanting to dumb them down they do seem less complicated than some of the girls I know of their age- as long as they have cuddles, food (lots!) and room to let of steam they seem pretty happy. I love that mums of sons have a chance to bring up boys who know how to behave around/talk to/respect women. Seeing this can be a big source of pride, especially as they get older.

Ahhh my two boys are my little Cubs. They’re at the “easy” age of 9&7 and love each other fiercely. Bicker but never fight, and anything physical is always in play.
Hugely into karate, fishing, sharks, horse riding, Harry Potter, lego etc but both are so different from each other.

They are absolute cuddle bugs, and love nothing more than to be with us, hanging out.

I too, was disappointed that I might never have the experience of a daughter (not at the expense of DS2 of course), but now if I were to have a 3rd, I’d want another boy!

Children, little humans, are the most perfectly, incredible, individual creatures, no matter the sex, and watching their personalities emerge and develop is such an adventure.

Congratulations! It’s a wonderful whirlwind!

@Misspacorabanne only found out today so hopefully it will all pass in a few days and I can get used to it.

It didn’t really help that dp spotted it and shouted out “I think that looks like a boy” before I’d even seen the screen and only about a second after the scanner hit my belly so I was a bit shocked by the speed of it.

I also barely saw any of the scan happening as she kept the screen turned away from me the whole time except for a very short flash at the end where she turned it to show me.

I think dp was a bit disappointed too but has got over it faster than I have.
We are both a one of each so neither of us really have a concept of having a same sex sibling.

And for anyone saying it’s about stereotypes and glitter vs dinosaurs it 100% is not about that. I quite like the dinosaurs. Or the clothes (which I would have passed down anyway).

I agree that it’s not about the stereotypes. I wanted a girl so that DH could have a daughter and experience raising a daughter in a patriarchal society. He’s one of 2 boys, his dad was one of 2 boys so I thought having a daughter might open his eyes to the reality of what girls and women face. That being said, he’s pretty feminist since being married to me, and our boys are being raised to be respectful, kind human beings.

I have two boys 18 months apart and growing up they were playmates and it was lovely to watch and be part of. I never thought about a girl, when my first was a boy I simply hoped for a brother for him.
I will say being so close together they were always super competative, still are. Rather sad to behold as they grew older and developed their own friendship groups they grew apart and are not very close at all now.