Breastfeeding Mama need help!!

[mumoflittleangel]

Hi lovelies,

My baby is 14 mo. He is addicted to breastfeeding. He can’t sleep without bf, when he sleeps it’s always in his mouth if I try to take them out he wakes up and cry. Please let me know how can I gradually stop breastfeeding and my baby can sleep without it. Please help!!

Hi there,
This week I started a variation of the Ferber method as my LO would not sleep without my nipple in his mouth either and it was driving me INSANE with lack of sleep.
I cannot tell you how well it has gone.
The longest I ever leave DS upset is 3 minutes and he is sleeping in his own cot in own room all night already!
Have you looked into any options? What have you tried so far?

I haven’t tired anything yet. I don’t know from where and how to start as whole night he needs my nipple in his mouth.

Do you bedshare?
I did, and went from that to DS being in his own room and own cot. I started on Saturday night and from Sunday he has slept through 12 hrs each night, I'm honestly gobsmacked.

I do his bedtime routine - bath, books, song and breastfeed. Then take him into his room and cuddle, kiss abs lullaby.
Put him into the cot awake and leave the room. Set a timer for 3 minutes on my phone and if he cries I start the timer. If it times out and he's still crying I'll go in and give cuddles and Kisses agaib, but then out him down and leave the room again. Start the timer and process again.
I've never gone in more than 3 times, so a max of 9 mins of crying in total.

We went cold Turkey over a bank holiday weekend at 15 months overnight with Dd1, 18 months with Dd2. Exh rocked them to sleep having given them a cup of milk (they were on cows milk by then in a "anywayup cup" daytimes), and when they tried to get into our bed to feed (they had toddler beds at that age) he scooped them up his side and comforted them, sometimes had to walk around rocking for a few mins. It worked but took a few days to stop them from asking

I made a thread about it -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4285372-To-consider-Cry-It-Out?msgid=108681994

I am currently following the lucy Wolfe ‘baby sleep solution’ method. We’re 12 days in and my baby can now fall asleep without feeding to sleep, which he had literally never done before. Two weeks ago he was feeding to sleep and waking 6 times per night. It has been life changing for us.

Also it doesn’t involve any kind of leaving them to cry, so if you don’t want to do cry it out or controlled crying it’s a good option.

Yes I do bedshare with him ☹️

I will definitely try that!!

Also he don’t drink milk with bottle neither with glass or anything so it’s another difficult situation for me. He just want boobies!!

Pantley pull off method - basically when you remove your nipple from baby's mouth you push under their chin/jaw (soft bit not bony) so their mouth doesn't feel empty then remove pressure gradually.

For longer gaps between feeds at night look at Dr Jay Gordon nightweaning. You pick a block of time you won't BF during & then expand it - didn't work with mine until quite a bit older than 14 months though.