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Lonely kid

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Lozzy865 · 14/07/2021 10:52

I have always found it hard to make friends and meaningful connections with people and was a loner kid throughout my childhood. Since my daughter was born it added huge anxiety because I'm responsible for making connections wurh other mums in order for her to be able to socialize and build confidence with people. It's been painful and a struggle but I think Ive done quite well with this, but the summer holidays are looming again and I'm dreading her getting bored and lonely. Im desperately sad that I haven't been able to give her a sibling so I have enormous added guilt over that, and I find it so hard to find other parents that are up for regular playdates. Everyone is busy, has multiple kids, seem to click better or just aren't interested. I feel like that lonely little girl constantly and fear my daughter will suffer because of it.

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Letsallscreamatthesistene · 14/07/2021 12:27

How old is your daughter? Can she go to clubs/sports where she can socialise without you being actively responsible?

LongCovidNotCoping · 14/07/2021 12:33

Cut yourself some slack OP. You’re doing great.

My parents weren’t social and yet us kids are more so. Funnily enough DM is more social than when we were kids, but they’re retired and have the time!

It takes a while to get to know people, it will come. Give it time. Regular playdates - we don’t even do this, just the odd one once in a while when I’m sick of my two arguing and get a stab of guilt about not having had anyone over.

Please stop the sibling guilt -there’s no saying they’d even get on! (See above!)

BadgeronaMoped · 14/07/2021 12:42

I'm sorry you were lonely Flowers if it helps a little, I am not sociable, and went to those baby/toddler groups with DS simply because the health visitor was making me feel guilty. DS has never had "play dates", again because I am unsociable, but he's not suffered, he made a nice group of friends at school, and now he's older (10), he plays out with them/socialises normally. I completely understand the worry about how your child will fare socially, but she'll be fine, you sound fab.

It may have been asked as I am typing, but how old is your DD?

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