I just had my second baby 3 weeks ago, dc1 is 3 and a half. It's been quite a tough transition, although dc1 loves her new sibling so much the mum guilt of not being able to be there for her in the same way anymore has been so hard and she's acting out for attention. It feels so much harder to get out and do all the things we used to do together.
My newborn won't sleep at night unless being held so I'm getting 2 hours of sleep a night when my partner holds him before work. Im just shattered and my hormones feel haywire.
Dc1 also has a cold and only wants me and has now passed the cold onto baby who is full of congestion now too and im really struggling to be there for them both. Dc1 only wants me and not Dad and with baby being exclusively breastfed it's so hard.
Since having the cold my daughter also hasn't eaten barely a thing in 3 days and it's really worrying me. I don't even know if it's the cold causing the lack of appetite anymore or another thing for attention because we spent so much time encouraging her to eat the first day she felt poorly.
Im trying my hardest but feel like a failure, like I'm ruining all of our lives by not being able to handle it all and get on with life as usual plus the new addition. (My partner has been supportive and is helping where he can whilst working long hours during the day)
I'm really hoping this gets better soon :(