My partner and I have one child, she’s 8. She can be a bit sensitive and sometimes reluctant to try something new. My partner is a keen cyclist and really wants her to try some off road cycling in the woods around us (very gentle, nothing very lumpy or dangerous, just not a cycle path). He has been asking to go with him for quite a while and she always refuses - I think she is a little worried, but also just not that bothered about trying it. She has now asked for a stool for her bedroom (fluffy pink to match her rug) and I suggested she ask Dad as I had just paid for the rug. Partner has said he’ll buy it if she goes out twice to the woods on her bike with him.
I have never used bribes with our daughter, I don’t believe in it and never needed to. I don’t feel comfortable with this bribe and my daughter is pretty unhappy about it as she really doesn’t want to try mountain biking.
I don’t want to undermine my partner and say I’ll just buy the stool, but I’m not sure how to explain to him that bribing her to do this activity isn’t the best idea.
Wwyd?