Is my friend jealous of my baby?

[weedino21]

I think my friend might be jealous of my baby, when I first told her I was pregnant she didn't seem to happy about it then when I had picked my pram she had to say " that's the pram I had picked out " and that's the pram me and my partner was looking at" which annoyed me because she's not pregnant nor has a child so I fee she was saying that to annoy me, then after my daughter was born she told people that I had stole the name she had, but as I said she's not pregnant or has a baby and I've never heard her say that girls name before or anything like that, I'd never steal someone else's baby's name, since she found out I was pregnant till now she's made me feel terrible about having a baby and making me think that I've done wrong for picking a pram and a baby name and for even having a baby 😢dose she sound jealous or is she just being horrible about it all?

She sounds unhinged. I'd back away.

I had one of these 'friends'
I cut them off tbh, best thing I did

You've done nothing wrong op she sounds very jealous

She may not be pregnant or have a baby at the moment, but could have had a loss which could explain the whole "that's the pram I had picked out....." thing. She may also have thought of same name for a baby she may have subsequently lossed. We don't know 🤷‍♀️ Either way, keep away from her if she is annoying you

Is she trying to conceive? Or could she have suffered a loss and not told you? It sounds like she desperately wants a baby and is struggling with the fact that you have one.

I’d be sympathetic with her.

Yeah sounds like she suffered a loss. Keep your distance for a while but be gentle with her.

@YelloYelloYello

Is she trying to conceive? Or could she have suffered a loss and not told you? It sounds like she desperately wants a baby and is struggling with the fact that you have one.

I’d be sympathetic with her.

Agree with this.

Wtf @Zarene and @Purple21 instead of even asking “are you ok?” to a friend suddenly acting out of character you’d just jump immediately to cutting them off?

@YelloYelloYello

Is she trying to conceive? Or could she have suffered a loss and not told you? It sounds like she desperately wants a baby and is struggling with the fact that you have one.

I’d be sympathetic with her.

Yeah she is trying to have a baby but she only seem to be like this with me, our other friend had a little boy before me and shes not been like this with her only me, that's what I didn't understand

@YelloYelloYello

Wtf *@Zarene and @Purple21* instead of even asking “are you ok?” to a friend suddenly acting out of character you’d just jump immediately to cutting them off?

Because she was absolutely fine just not with me. You have no idea what she done to me whilst pregnant

I'd be sympathetic too. It sounds like she's struggling. Jealously isn't always malicious. Sometimes it can't be helped. Of course she should try to mask it better but it sounds like she's struggling with conceiving.
Honestly some people on MN just jump to LTB and don't put any thought in to what the other person might be going through

Yeah she is trying to have a baby

That’s it then @weedino21

What to do about it depends how much of a good friendship you usually have and how you’re both coping with the situation. Either talk to her and tell her you can see she’s struggling and be there for her. Or you can try to be understanding but keep her at a bit of a distance while she works through everything. (Or something in the middle of those two things.)

I’d gently back away, this will bring you nothing but drama.

It’s alright being gentle and sympathetic and if it’d been one thing I’d have agreed. But to be honest when I was pregnant/had a small baby I didn’t have much to give to others. You might not be me but don’t feel bad if you feel like that. If it’s making you feel bad, think about taking care of yourself first.