Baby cries hysterically when I leave the room - any advice please

[dancingqueen03]

Hi,

My DS has just turned 6 months old and for the past week he had cried every time I leave the room 😩

He is a clingy baby in the sense that he needs me constantly to play with him, or even sit next to him when he does play, I'm writings this now sat on the floor why he is splaying

He never use to cry when I leave the room as I could nip to the kitchen and do his bottles and he would be very happy playing on his play mat - the only thing that's has changed is he had learnt to roll from back to front but can't get back so I'm just wondering weather this has come about cause he gets stuck and now doesn't want to be left alone?

Has this happened to anyone else? Is it just a phase? I'm a ftm and have no other mum friends to ask so i guess I'm just after some advice?

Probably best to just roll with it.

Have somewhere in each room he can safely be put while you do stuff in there. High chair in the kitchen, crib or playpen in the bedroom, make the living room safe.

Then you can prep bottles while he plays with a toy at his high chair or you can chatter to him while you put clothes away kn the bedroom.

They grow out of this stuff eventually.

And also, it doesnt harm them to scream for a minute while you have a wee or take an item to another room, just gently reassure them you are back when you walk into the room.

It's very normal to start experiencing separation anxiety around this age. It does get better when they realise that when you go away, you come back. Playing games like peek-a-boo can help them understand the concept of object permenance (that when an object goes out of sight, it's still there) in a fun way.

Otherwise, it's just a case of riding it out. I'm in the same boat as you with my 10mo. She's been like it since about 8 months and she definitely has improved, although will still be clingy depending on her mood.

My son went through it about 6 months two. I would make sure I'd say where I was going, talk to him whilst I was out the room and just build the time up gradually. It's a developmental stage so just reassure and roll with it.

I promise it will pass.

To help you get through in the meantime:

1 - a sling/carrier so he can be super close to you while you make the bottles etc

2 - as someone else has suggested bring him into whichever room you are in

3 - wine

let him cry.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

let him cry.

A lot of parents don't like their babies to be scared or unhappy, especially when they are too young to properly communicate their needs or have the means to move about and follow you.

OP, as others have said, separation anxiety is a normal phase. Can you get one of those baby walkers, so your baby can 'follow' you or at least have you pop him in it in the same room as you?

Hi guys as you know a busy day with a baby and I'm overwhelmed with all your responses so thank you so much 😊

I'm definitely going to take some ideas on bored and I'm so glad it's not just me and a normal phase

@Somethingsnappy are baby walkers good to use? I think Iv read probably on her to avoid due to them strengthening the wrong muscles in the baby's legs? As you can see ftm and I am following Google's instructions 😂

If so I'm more than happy to give it a go as he is definitely more happy when moving around so hopefully it might help

He just needs to learn to crawl then he can follow you around!! Seriously he’s just probably getting to that pissed off stage before they learn to crawl.

Oh, I didn't know that actually! I'm not sure. Maybe just use a high chair then

My DD did this around 6/7 months as well, and I would just talk to her through the walls/bring her with me or failing that and if it was something I really needed to nip and do alone for a couple mins like cooking, I'd put on HeyBear baby sensory - but I know not everyone agrees with that!

baby walkers are only suitable for babies that can sit unaided.

@Somethingsnappy

a lot of parents don't like their babies to be scared or u happy

umm do you mean that some do? or did you just felt some weird need to give a misguided lecture?

it's ok to let babies cry for short periods of time. they won't die from it.
nobody likes to do, it but sometimes it's necessary.
or is your baby attached to you and able to see you 24/7? because if they do that's not healthy

*unhapppy

Aww, that sounds tough on both sides! It's a very common stage for his age,along with fear of any strangers because he has such a strong bond with his Mum! Sometimes they cry if one parent holds him and he wants Mum. It'll pass. He also would like to be crawling and follow you but is frustrated he can't yet. He sounds adorable and you sound like a great Mum!

[quote ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]@Somethingsnappy

a lot of parents don't like their babies to be scared or u happy

umm do you mean that some do? or did you just felt some weird need to give a misguided lecture?

it's ok to let babies cry for short periods of time. they won't die from it.
nobody likes to do, it but sometimes it's necessary.
or is your baby attached to you and able to see you 24/7? because if they do that's not healthy[/quote]
Yes, I meant that some parents do occasionally seem fine with it, as evidenced by your very short 'let him cry' post. And to answer your questions, no my baby isn't permanently attached, but yes, I do go to him when he cries. You're right that sometimes it is necessary, but in OP's case, it's not absolutely necessary as her baby can easily sit in the same room as her. If she felt fine leaving him to cry, she wouldn't have posted.

P. S. Why is it 'unhealthy' for a young baby to be able to see its mother 24/7?