1 YEAR OLD FIGHTING NAPS

[Blak]

I keep posting about this but never really get a lot of response. I am at my wits end with it and feeling so sorry for my DD. It seems as soon as my DD feels like she’s getting tired she will cry and scream and get herself in a right state. I have tried everything, taking her for walks and drives and still fighting her sleep. DD had 20 mins sleep all day to day:(
Her current schedule typically goes;
7-7:15 Wake and bottle
8am breakfast
10am quick snack
10:45/11 short nap when DD actually goes down for one
11:30 wake
1/1:30 lunch
2:30/3- nap
3:45/4 wake and snack
7:45 bedtime

I have tried going to one nap a day and stretching it to 12/12:30 still no luck I have the same situation.
What am I doing wrong, it’s been going on for well over a week now

How does she get to sleep for the nap and at bedtime?

How many months old is she?

By 12m DD and her friends were all on one nap I think. DD had hers after an early lunch, so nap time was generally 1pm.

By 23m DD had dropped daytime napping altogether. She really still needed that sleep in the day but for whatever reason she just would not let it happen, despite the fact that I still put her in her cot at nap time every day for nearly 6 months (if we were at home anyway) in the vain hope she would get back to it!

So I'm probably not the best person to ask as DD dropped napping earlier than I think was ideal but I didn't want your post to go unanswered!

@TooMinty DD is amazing at bedtime, in cot with White noise on and asleep in no time. For her naps I have been changing things around to try and get it right. I have been putting her in her Chico HUG in front of the tv watching David Attenborough our planet whilst she chills and gets relaxed but she was just falling asleep there so I’d then take her up to her cot. I’ve tried putting her in her cot straight away for a nap but she screams the house down and gets in a state. I hate to let her cry it out and it makes me feel awful putting her in that position :(

Big hugs mama 🥰 don't give yourself a hard time as you are doing the best you can!

I think her bedtime is too late and you should only be having one nap now. This is my routine for my 14 month old and we've done a similar nap and sleep routine since she was 6 weeks old;

8am breakfast
9:30 snack
11:30 lunch
12:30 down for nap in cot. Dark room with white noise on
3:30 snack
5/5:30 dinner
6pm bath
6:30 milk
6:50 bedtime story
7pm sleep in cot, dark room with white noise

Does your DD self settle to sleep? It can take a week or so for baby to adjust to a new routine whilst others take to it straight away xx

I'd try to get her to sleep the same place every time but tricky if she fights it for naps. We went down to one nap per day about 12 or 13 months. It was a decent long one, maybe 1-3pm. But the transition is difficult x

Can you try and extend the morning and not put her down down later around 11-11:30 and give her a snack beforehand and then lunch when she wakes??
I started to do that when she started to fight naps and then her nap gradually got later to be after lunch.

Hi @AperolWhore
Yes DD does self settle at night time, she has done for many months now. I think this is something I will try. I think my mistake has been not always putting her down for a sleep in her cot and I don’t know how to fix it

@Blak

Hi *@AperolWhore* Yes DD does self settle at night time, she has done for many months now. I think this is something I will try. I think my mistake has been not always putting her down for a sleep in her cot and I don’t know how to fix it

@Blak yes I think that's the key. Same routine as bedtime for lunchtime nap, I still give my 14m old milk before nap when she's at home with me then take her up for her nap. She doesn't have milk at nursery but perhaps it would help?

I think you just have to tough it out with getting her to sleep in her cot, I know it's awful when she screams but it's short term pain for long term gain. I cherish the two hour nap as I can either relax or tick off my to do list so it's definitely worth sticking with it xx

Just been through this with DD1 as well. I got to the point where I was so knackered I was snapping at her and feeling worse. One day I’d had enough and I put her in her cot for a nap. She screamed blue murder for over an hour then fell asleep. A bit of tough love may be needed here for your sanity. I think my DD is so nosey she’s afraid of missing out but she gets really upset on no sleep so I think it was best. Each day is hit and miss but she is deffo having more naps during the day now so it’s starting to pay off

It's a phase.

She'll grow out of it. It's just horrible while she does. She might even drop a nap, pick it back up and do the same thing over again.

Make yourself a big cup of tea and have a biscuit

From the time my little was 9 months to 18 months, she had just one 45-minute nap. At 18 months, suddenly started having 1 and 1/2 hour nap.

No advice here sorry

Wishing you the best