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DS not being invited to 'friends' birthday parties

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Catbell82 · 08/07/2021 17:23

This is more for the need to rant than anything - I appreciate I can't do anything about this but it still makes me angry...

DS is 10 and has been friends with this boy (A) since reception. For the past couple of years, A hasn't invited DS to any of his birthday parties. DS still invites A to his own birthday and for general play dates and A seems happy to come but the invites are haven't been reciprocated for a long time. DS used to be invited round by A & to A's birthday's but this stopped around 2 years ago. This coincides with an incident which involved DS falling out with another boy (B) who was also best friends with A (their parents are also very good friends). This could just be a coincidence I suppose...

DS is upset about not being invited to A's birthday again and A has given the same reason for not inviting DS (which he has given for the previous 2 years) 'I'm only allowed to invite X number of people'.

DS is convinced they are still very good friends but it appears to me that the feeling is clearly not reciprocated.

I know that DS will want to continue inviting A round but I really want to discourage this (I know it's childish) but I don't see why we should keep having A round when he clearly doesn't value the friendship with DS as much!

As I said just a rant really....

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Whatinthelord · 08/07/2021 21:58

Wow that does sound difficult.
Is it possible that A does really like your son but maybe his parents don’t want him inviting your son over because of their own things?

My daughter is a lot young but has a friend who is a friend to her unless their other friend is around. I think children’s relationships can be completed sometimes. Guess we just gotta try and help them pick out what is a good friendship and what isn’t.

Could you maybe encourage his friendship with others, so he isn’t as reliant on that one friend for socialising.

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