Potty training 3yo

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Am I lazy? Haven't done it yet as he's not saying too much but have decided to bite the bullet and try him naked no nappies in the next week or so and see how we get on. My mum is going to help. I also have a1 year old. My friend said it's a bit lazy and why do I need help but as I said to her I'm just one of those people who needs a hand hold with new stuff then once I get going I'm fine. Is there anything wrong with that?

Everyone has an opinion on potty training! Do what works for you at a time that works for you - you know your child best! My eldest is nearly 3.5 and we've pretty much cracked wees in the toilet. No poos yet though. I also have a 1 year old and would have loved an extra pair of hands to stop him getting into mischief while I cajoled DC1 onto the toilet.

Mine will be three in few months and I haven't even started thinking about it. Honestly, what's the big deal. He will learn at some point.
I am not planning to wait until is 10 or anything like that, but I am not stressed about that either.
Also, only you know when your little one is ready. It's not like they are ready overnight when they turn a certain age.

Thanks for the replies and glad to see I'm not alone. He will be 3.5 in September and moving into the big room at nursery so ideally I want him trained to at least do a wee by then. But I don't see why I should feel bad for asking for help like my friend was implying.

No shame in getting help, go for it!!
And no rush either. I went too early with my second DD and it's taken forever to get her potty trained! She's still not reliably dry now at 3.5yrs. Wish I'd waited a bit. I started at 2yrs 7 months and was too soon really. My eldest was 2yrs 9months and did it really quickly so I stupidly thought they would be similar! But just goes to show all children are different and they are ready in their own time!

Please don't feel bad for asking for help.
I'm someone who also needs a hand hold with things

@Purple21 glad to hear I'm mot alone. Honestly I lie awake worrying about stuff then once it's over I'm fine again

That's me!
Constant worrier! Can't relax till sorted with whatever it is 🙈

Well today is D-day. Nursery finishes at 11.30 then after lunch I'm taking off joe nappy and seeing what happens. I'm leaving out a potty for him and will take him to the toilet also where there's a children's seat. He had sat on these both before but just not done anything

I also went to primark this morning and got some pants for when I feel he's ready to ty them

If today is not too disastrous and we have a success then I might keep him off nursery tomo as it's Friday and continue over the weekend

His nappy not joe nappy lol

He's 3.3 btw so hoping he gets the hang of it soon as he's that bit older

I didn't do potty training in one go this time. Started at 2.5 getting him to use the potty when he woke up, then no nappy until we left the house for the school run. Obvious, that is not a long time just to get used to it. Then built up longer stints from there over a long time, following what he seemed ready for. We are now at nappy off in the day and some wet trousers, so not perfected things, but seems to be going well.

DS1 had withholds issues, so was just turning 4 when he was out of nappies. That took a LOT of bribery to achieve.

Do it when time is right
No big rush, PM if any questions.
Hope it goes well

Absolutely get help and don't feel bad about it. It's a huge transition, made smoother of you can give you child more attention. You have your hands full with two. We're on week 2 of potty training our toddler and I had either my husband or grandma with me for the first week. The first day I was in my own, my feral 9 month daughter took advantage of a chaotic situation and ate her older brother's poo... Always have help!

Dd was also 3.3 when we first attempted potty training- she has a speech and language delay and I was absolutely bloody dreading it. I was so sure she wouldn’t understand and I was worried about the impact on her self esteem bla bla bla.

We decided during the lockdown in January just to try her with a potty, no pressure of deadlines for school etc.

Well, it was a dream. She just got it instantly, poos and wees, and dry at night very quickly. There’s been accidents along the way, but for the most part it’s been very straightforward.

It’s done a lot for her independence as well. We still have trouble trying to get her to communicate that she needs to go as opposed to just sorting herself out, but it’s no where near as hard as I thought it was going to be.

Thanks for all the replies and I have an update

He done a number 2 on the sofa just as my back was turned dealing with baby but I got to it in time as it fell out and so quickly sorted it all out so no damage just me tamautised!!

He's since done 2 wees on the potty but both times I sat him there with my phone and a game he likes. He weed on the sofa another time as I took him off the potty too soon and he obviously hasn't finished

I keep telling him to go wee wee in the potty and I notice he gets hard when he is nearly there, is this common? So when do I stop watching him like a hawk and let him go to the potty himself as I can't superglue him to it with my phone every time

I still sit next to my DD while she is on the potty every time to encourage her to stay on it and do a full wee. Or I noticed that she would sit on but not wait long enough to do anything! We listen out for the 'tinkle' and lots of praise if she does anything. I'm really looking forward to not having to watch her wee all the time!