Willful One Year Old

[Frizbe]

Hi, has anyone got any advice re my one year old dd, who has recently decided to start throwing herself about in total tantrum, when she's not getting her own way! (example I don't want to go on the floor, throwing herself backwards and virtually dislocating my jaw, luckily I moved or she'd have bust my nose.....) Dh says SS used to do same thing, is it a phase? please share your experiences.

It's a phase. An annoying, embarrassing-in-public phase but it does pass.

I'd say it's a phase, Frizbe, part of the run-up to terrible twos! My ds2 currently hurls himself to the ground like the dying swan every time he is crossed. I'm afraid I laugh and walk away, but that's because I've been through it twice before and paying attention just seems to make it worse. Try not to let is get to you (easier said that done, I know), take a few deep breaths and don't let her see you watching.

It does pass. Eventually. Dd started at about 20 months having previously been angelic. She's only just grown out of it really and she's nearly 4!

mine's started at 16 months. She's an absolute nightmare if she doesn't get her own way. Took her to buy some new shoes yesterday and the lady wanted her to get out of the pushchair to try them on properly. I knew what was coming. Once out she does not want to get back in. She was as happy as anything toddling round the shop in her new shoes but when I tried to get her back in her pushchair . It's just her wanting her independance but it's really hard going. Frizbe, I've had numerous whacks on the nose by her throwing her head back. I never seem to dodge in time

Hi all, thanks for the advice! I think I'll try the laugh and ignore it tack, and just keep an eye so she doesn't hurt herself....fingers x'd she grows out of it soon!

Yes .. pick her up and remove her from the room for a minute .. totally ignore her .. if she's still tantruming after ONE minute go out and say in a calm voice 'when you calm down you can come back in' and keep doing it ... never leave her for longer than a minute at a time

zero tolerance for tantrumming and whinging in my house .. they get put on the bottom stair

I agree Twig (surprise, surprise!).

Zero tolerance - certainly no 10 min long conversations trying to reason with them!!

Don't worry Frizbe - it's a phase for definite. Might be a long one but it's perfectly normal!

Hi
I have been reading this thread with interest. I have a very demanding little girl who throws tantrums, screams when she doesnt get her own way, throws her finger foods on the floor -- thing is shes 8 months old. Is this normal (shes been like it since birth) and how do you introduce boundaries.
Im dreading the terrible 2's and is she too young for time out.
being a 1st time mum i have a lot to learn !!

Thanks twiglett, I've been keeping with the Zero tolerence, although she is a bit young for the bottom step! (it's behind the stair gate!) and she's only managed to chin me once this week!
For the foods on the floor fernyburn I have taken to either a) removing the food until she keeps it on the plate/in the bowl b) only giving one bit at a time - but she is about over that now, I may be getting her trained, c) stopping her dropping or throwing the food by firmly placing my hand over hers and saying NO, if when I remove it the food gets thrown, the food gets removed....made for longer lunches to start with, but appears to work in the long run, most of the time, food is staying in place! and she's even starting to use her own spoon!!!!

Oh good, it's not just my ds then . I thought they didn't start all this malarkey until the 'terrible twos' but ds seems keen to start early. My ds arches his back and thrashes about ? from your description sounds as if your dd is similar. Luckily it doesn't last very long and I've developed a superhuman grip around his trunk...