First time posting so please bear with me!
Our daughter is 19 months old and until ~3 months ago was in a great bedtime routine after doing controlled crying sleep training at 6 months. My husband and I both share bedtime (bath, pyjamas etc), then taking turns to put her down but over time I’ve gotten complacent and not only taken over all put downs but also letting her stay up longer with cuddles, falling asleep on me etc.
We’re now at the point she will not let daddy put her to bed at all - she’s fine with bathtime etc up until the point of being carried into her bedroom by daddy - major tantrum, “mummy do it” etc. Have tried to leave her with him to do the final step of bottle in her room but she screams and cries so much and even tries to get out of the room.
I’m 6months pregnant and obviously not only want to avoid the physical strain of always doing put downs, but when new baby arrives in September it won’t be possible (/easy). Another spanner is by that time my husband will be missing ~3 bedtimes pw due to work.
For this reason he isn’t as keen to nip this in the bud, though does accept it will be extremely difficult for me come September if this continues. He thinks we still have a while to resolve this whereas I’d like to get cracking ASAP.
Otherwise, our daughter has always been a real live wire, lots of fun and very active but has just started the terrible 2s with temper tantrums, as well as probably some jealousy with the impending new arrival. She loves to play and cuddle with her dad, but they don’t spend much 1:1 time together outside of the house - perhaps this is something we could try to improve bedtime?
Any advice or tips greatly appreciated!!