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What age did you stop using a monitor?

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ifindoubtdoit · 06/07/2021 01:40

DS is 3 next month and we still use a monitor in his room every night.

He sleeps in a double bed never falls out (anymore) and if on the rare occasion he gets up in the night he comes straight into us but I still keep a monitor on when he's in bed.

What age did you get rid of yours?

We live in a relatively average sized 5 bed detached and I guess we would probably hear him but I have kept it to now just in case we don't or if he has a nightmare and we wouldn't hear.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 06/07/2021 01:51

We kept ours for years so DD could call us without shouting. Past school starting! They are convenient!

Floopyandtired · 06/07/2021 08:59

We stopped around age 3 when he moved from a cot to a regular bed. We didn’t need it any more as if he woke he would get out of bed, walk to the door and shout “MUMMMMMYYYYYYYYYY” loud enough to wake the neighbours.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 06/07/2021 09:01

We never un boxed ours Grin

SamMil · 06/07/2021 09:10

Ours is 3.5 years old and we still use the baby monitor. We've got 3 doors between her room & ours so wouldn't hear her otherwise.

Mamamamasaurus · 06/07/2021 09:52

7 & 4 and we still use it - we have thick interior walls and DC7 sometimes has might terrors. Catching one early means it doesn't wake up DC4

idontlikealdi · 06/07/2021 09:52

We never had one, now we have Alexa and they can talk to us through that

motogogo · 06/07/2021 09:53

Never, we switched to toddler beds once they went into their own room

cindarellasbelly · 06/07/2021 09:55

We're expecting DC2 when DD will be 3, the earliest they'll go in a room on their own is six months but probably closer to a year so I imagine we'll just switch it over then.

Ours is still incredibly useful though: it has a video intercom so if she cries out we can look and see if she's mostly still asleep (in which case we stay quiet) sitting up (in which case we talk through it and guide her into lying back down and sleeping, this has a 50/50 success rate), or about to completely freak out and wake herself up completely in which case one of us goes into her and strokes her back till she goes back to sleep. It has 100% reduced the amount of times I have to go into her room by at least half.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 06/07/2021 10:01

We moved house when DDs were 2.5 and 8 months. The layout of the house meant we didn't need it (massive open hallway). The old house had a closed in staircase and you couldn't hear them.

(They are 8&10 now. 10yo just got her own Echo Dot for her birthday. The intercom feature is very useful!)

DappledThings · 06/07/2021 11:40

5 and 3 and we still use them in the evening when we are downstairs. If they do cry we can't here them from the lounge. Don't take them upstairs when we go up though.

Bobholll · 06/07/2021 11:41

3 when DD’s baby sister arrived & I refused to buy another one 😂 it’s weird to think we had one for DD1 so long now as DD2 is 15 months & we stopped using it at 9 months 🙈 complete second child thing, we just forgot to turn it on. She’s so loud, there’s no way we’ll miss her crying! Might use it again when we switch to a bed to check she’s staying in it but otherwise, it’s currently in a cupboard!

FindingMeno · 06/07/2021 11:43

About junior school age- ish.
It reassured them when they had nightmares and were scared to get out of bed, they only had to call for me and I would always always go to them.

QwertyGirly · 06/07/2021 11:49

Really depends on the set up of your house. My DCs bedrooms were next to mine so no problem there, and we have an open staircase and could easily hear them from downstairs. I think we had one until they were around 2, and kept in for nights when they were ill and might need us at night (more for my peace of mind than their needs TBH).

Backhills · 06/07/2021 11:55

About 6 weeks. The house isn't so large we couldn't hear a baby crying and the slightest noise (or lack of noise) on the monitor kept me awake.

WeAllHaveWings · 06/07/2021 12:04

We never really used. When ds was newborn I mostly slept when he did, after a few weeks we could hear him written he wanted us so it wasn't needed. Guess it depends on the size and layout of your house if they are really useful.

FizzingWhizzbee123 · 07/07/2021 21:12

Our 3.5yr old still has the monitor in his room. He finds it comforting as he knows we’ll hear him if he calls out in the night and he likes the fact we can see him (it’s a video monitor). We had recently thought about getting rid of it but he’s going through a spate of nightmares so it’s still proved useful.

MeadowHay · 07/07/2021 21:16

Our DC has just turned 3 and we still use one and I can't see us stopping anytime soon. She often wakes in the morning quite happily and chats or sings to herself quietly which we wouldn't be able to hear without it and I'd feel bad if she was just stuck in bed for ages until she got upset and started crying or whatever. She still sleeps in a cot bed with the sides up so she can't just come and get us I should have said first. Don't have any intention of taking the sides down anytime soon as she's happy as she is and generally a good sleeper so I don't want to mess around with anything and risk changing that.

Figmentofimagination · 07/07/2021 23:27

DS is 4 and we still use a video monitor. In fact we've just had to buy a new one as our last parent unit broke.
But I don't feel comfortable without one yet. We don't use it in our room much anymore, may check on him once in the night because we can hear him next door. But we do need it when we are downstairs each evening as we can't hear him over the low tv and through the walls, and I also use it when I put him to bed at night and grab a shower when I'm home on my own as I can't hear him over the shower and it reassures me.

Astraj · 11/07/2021 00:46

Stopped using ours when dd was about 13 months old as she started sleeping in our bed Shock when we finally got round to turning her cot into a toddler bed and evicting her from ours at 17months old we just didn't bother with it, her room is right next to ours, pretty thin walls so not needed.

Bksjshsbbev2737 · 11/07/2021 07:07

About 2.5; possibly earlier for actually during the night as I found I woke when she just coughed or moved so we tried without and i do wake when she does which is luckily fairly rare

Chelyanne · 11/07/2021 11:30

Use monitor for 1st and didn't like it. Never used one for other 4 and will not for current.
I do keep them close during the 1st year instead, cot-bed in our room and travel cot in living room. Our kids have moved out of our room later and later, occasionally wake to a twin in our bed in the morning (they're 6).

Xansaf · 11/07/2021 16:02

We still have one and our daughter is 4. We haven’t used the video bit since she was 2ish and settled in her big bed but we used to keep bedroom doors closed due to the cats and wouldn’t be bound to hear her if she called out. We keep them open now as she likes one of the cats in there with her on her chair but we still keep the monitor just in case we are in a deep sleep or something and she needs us.

Ostryga · 11/07/2021 16:04

I never used one, but Dd was either with me or when she had her own room it’s less than a meter away and we sleep with our door open.

De88 · 11/07/2021 16:07

Never used one!

yikesanotherbooboo · 11/07/2021 16:22

Never used in our own home , I assumed that we would hear a loud cry.
I did occasionally use one if we were staying with friends but only for small babies.

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