I just don't know what to do.
My dd has adhd, suffered from anxiety and depression. I can be a bit reactive to her which I try to control but not always so well.
She is meant to be taking a specialised online one on one course today, she agreed to it, it's 2 hours a day for a week, $850 plus fees to send all the materials. It was expensive and she signed up to it.
2 hours before the course is due to start, she tells me she's not going to take it, that she wants to see her friends. I tell her it's too late to cancel or change for this upcoming 2 hour session. She then takes all the material which was sent, starts tearing it up, flinging it all over the living room. I told her if you make mess in the living room, I'll make a mess in your room and emptied some of her stuff (this was my reactive bit, probably should have stayed calm). I then told her she's grounded for this and took her phone. This was a cue for her to launch a full-on physical attack to get the phone back. She was hitting me, punching me. I didn't physcailly defend myself as I didn't want it to deteriorate into a physcail fight but also didn't give the phone back (amybe a mistake, I don't know, should I have???).
Eventually she calmed down and she's stormed out (without phone), apparently she wants to stay out all night according to dd2.
We live in Asia and in a big city so calling police isn't an option here.
She's really hurt me. She punched me in the ribs, I can't bend over. I'm just crying and feel helpless. It's not the first time she's been physical but usually dh is here to help, now he's away.