FTM and paranoid about everything

[amie2304]

Hi I'm a FTM to my 10 week old ds , I'm a overthinker and I'm paranoid about every little thing so I'm sorry if this seems silly but I'm not sure if I'm over thinking like usual or if this is a reason to be scared.
My partner has just cleaned the garden using this extremely strong liquid I'm not sure of the name but he tells me it's very strong, while he was using it me and ds was in the living room was all the windows closed so none of the smells was coming in after he was done I went upstairs to our bedroom and I forgot the window was open now I'm scared that we are sleeping in this room and it's going to affect my sons breathing.
I'm not letting my partner come in the house I've sent him to his mums to get a shower and change all his clothes so nothing in the house smells of the stuff
Since I've realised the window was open I feel like my chest is all tight and that I can't breathe. I can't smell anything in the room and I have a fan going aswell.
Is this a reason to be worried because im thinking of staying awake all night just so I can keep checking on my baby

I've been there, have you thought about PND? Your reaction is very extreme.

Please don't stay up all night! You're really worrying over nothing! I do get it though, I'm on my second and she's an older baby but I still worry! It's part of being a mum I'm afraid! From what you've said though, your baby hasn't been 'exposed' in any way. Even if The windows were open, think of all the outside air to dilute whatever it was your husband was using. Plus you have a fan on! Your baby will be fine. Just get whatever rest you can. I'm sure your baby will wake you up soon anyway and reassure that they're fine! Mine has just started rolling into her tummy at night! I know she's strong enough to handle it, but it still makes me worry! But I'm determined to get some sleep tonight!

Thank you for your replies I feel a bit better now, I haven't considered PND because I don't feel depressed or sad at all really, I'm actually the happiest I've ever been I'm so obsessed with my DS I don't even want the wind to blow on him so I just overthink and worry about every little thing

The overthinking and worrying about everything can be a sign that you have PND or postnatal anxiety. Very gently, it's not normal to not want the wind to blow on your baby/to stay up all night to check them. It might be helpful to discuss this with your health visitor. It's really common, looking back I definitely had PNA and probably PND too. I just buried my head in the sand and honestly the first 2 years were miserable for me.

Hope you managed to get some sleep last night.

@FakeTanandProsecco

The overthinking and worrying about everything can be a sign that you have PND or postnatal anxiety. Very gently, it's not normal to not want the wind to blow on your baby/to stay up all night to check them. It might be helpful to discuss this with your health visitor. It's really common, looking back I definitely had PNA and probably PND too. I just buried my head in the sand and honestly the first 2 years were miserable for me.

Hope you managed to get some sleep last night.

^This OP.

The anxiety is normal to an extent, it does get better.

In fairness I still have a go at DP when he's doing DIY/using chemicals. It's normal to be concerned but I think your reaction may have been a bit OTT.

It could be postnatal anxiety. Remember that your entire internal life risk assessment changes once you have a baby. And it takes a bit (understatement) of adjustment. If you’re finding it affects your life to the point of being debilitating, then go and see a GP.

It might help just to have a chat with someone OP - outside of your inner sanctum. You may be surprised how much better you feel getting it out to a third party. I speak from experience!