Toilet training

[justwingin2021]

So my son is 2.8 years old, he is behind on his communications and language but I'm thinking about potty training, not right now but for future..
so he tells me when he has had a poo, and I know the signs when he's about to poo. But he still has no clue about wee, we had to do a few wee samples and he noticed when he was weeing, and while he was weeing,

What are the signs there ready for potty training, how long does it usually take to be dry in the DAY
Thankyou in Advance x

I went on if my daughter was dry through her naps, and able to communicate enough to tell me she needed the loo. I swear by the OH CRAP book method- trained my little one within a couple of wks at 2.3. My biggest tip is don’t go back to pull ups, once you start keep going or you’re sending mixed messages. I didn’t give any rewards etc, it was just right now you’re a big girl in the day we use the potty and at night we wear a pull up- oh and don’t plan any big events/ time crucial activities when you start.

Children don’t learn they are weeing unless they experience it.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers I’m currently training my second child with the Oh Crap method and it’s not as easy as the first time, I suspect because she is a bit younger but she also already very stubborn (just like me!). Can I ask when your little one started to self initiate weeing?

I have 2 children, my daughter was very easy I would say but it was a lot harder with my son, he was on the younger side as he was starting nursery at the school and had to be potty trained and he had only just turned 3 a few weeks before starting nursery. I fully potty trained him during the day in the 6 week holiday before starting nursery, I don’t necessarily think he was 100% ready as he is very young for his age but it had to be done for nursery as they don’t change nappies etc. I kept asking him constantly if he needed the potty, which he really didn’t get on with so I bought the toilet training seat which you put on the toilet which I used for my daughter which worked too. It was hard for the first week he would have accidents but don’t get angry about it, when he has the accidents he will learn it’s not a nice feeling to be wet and understand he has to go to the toilet. It was hard for the first couple of weeks and I felt like giving up but I persevered with him, reward chart stickers treats etc and lots of praise and he starting being proud whenever he went to the toilet. I managed to fully potty train him in the day in those 6 weeks and he was fine for nursery. He is 4 in 2 weeks and about to start reception in sept, he still wears pull ups during the night because I still feel he isn’t ready to be potty trained in the nigjt

@Fitforforty

Children don’t learn they are weeing unless they experience it.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers I’m currently training my second child with the Oh Crap method and it’s not as easy as the first time, I suspect because she is a bit younger but she also already very stubborn (just like me!). Can I ask when your little one started to self initiate weeing?

I do agree some kids are easier to train than others- luck plays a factor. It is though evident that a lot of people who have had trouble training, stop and start the process. Once you commit to it commit to it! I would say within a month my daughter was telling us she needed the loo- that doesn’t mean even now at nearly 4 I don’t force her to the loo, “right we’re going out go to the loo”…she says no, I say “just try”.

Thanks for the tips it's very much appreciated
He hardly naps? so I can't tell if he's dry through them, as his naps a few and far between

His Poos he will hide in a corner and then you know.. and then come to me pointing at his bottom saying poo poo (still doesn't like nappy changing)

When we needed urine samples the first time was very difficult, as I felt he held in his wee as his nappy was off. As he went 5 hours without peeing then the moment I left the room he just let go (which led me to dash over with the pot to collect the sample)
The second sample I was more relaxed kept asking if he needed a wee he would reply no, then he was standing there went OH looked down and started to pee I praised and praised and he was very happy with him self.
But now on the odd occasions he will hold his nappy and say wee wee, but not very often.
Could this possibly be a sign of being ready?

I never really asked at the beginning “do you need the loo”, no 2 year old really would do this before it’s too late. It was always sit on e potty before we leave the house (hence no time constraints), and then me watching for any cues (little dance, corner for a poo), then sticking her on the potty and walking away - sometimes leaving her with a tablet to watch. No direct pressure by standing over them.

Oh and I always said when out “tell mummy if u need the loo”

Thanks @OnlyFoolsnMothers. I think I was pulled into a false sense of security by first being so ridiculously ease to train.

@justwingin2021 your boy is able to hold onto his wee until you leave the room. Sounds like he is well on his way to being trained.