I feel so sad

[Hope54321]

My 5 month old is so excited and smiling widely as soon as he’s dad walks into the room or even if he hears his dad’s voice. He stares at his dad and watches him as be moves around the room. He doesn’t care when it’s me even though I do pretty much everything for him, I feed him, change his nappies, do every night will him (co sleeping), and play with him. Still I don’t get the same reaction. It makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. And yes, I do feel jealous as childishl as that sounds.

I thought breastfeeding helps develop a strong bond between mother and baby… psh yh right.

Do you spend the most time with your son? If so its probably just that Mum's always there, he probably doesnt realise that you and him aren't actually the same person yet. Hang in there. I get how you feel, it's rough. You sound like you're doing a great job for him.

He’s used to you. But he would definitely feel worse if you weren’t around.

@DCINightingale

Do you spend the most time with your son? If so its probably just that Mum's always there, he probably doesnt realise that you and him aren't actually the same person yet. Hang in there. I get how you feel, it's rough. You sound like you're doing a great job for him.

Yes, he sees me all day. He only sees his dad for a couple of hours a day.

As a PP said, your baby thinks you're both the same person. You're his world., completely dependent on you. Anybody else in his life is new and interesting. But you are more... His foundation and security. It means you're the most important person to him, not the other way round. He has developed a strong, close and secure attachment to you and thus has the confidence to show interest and excitement around family members and other new people. My 4th baby is obsessed with his older siblings! But I know it's me he needs the most. You wait.... Once separation anxiety becomes apparent, you'll be the one he cries for when you leave the room x

Your baby is secure in his relationship with you.. Df is still a novelty...
It is ime perfectly normal.

My LO is the same it's because they know you are there and reliable aparantly. They take you for granted, which is good I guess as they know you are always there.

My DS was exactly like this at 5 months (also EBF). Would beam when my DH walked in but looked at me completely blankly. I too felt a bit hurt! As others have said - you DD hasn’t developed separation anxiety yet. He thinks you two are one in the same. Started for my DS circa…8 or 9 months? Now at 13 months if I’m present he has to be held or near to me or he’s not happy at all, even with DH. I hazard a guess you’ll see a massive change in the next 2 or 3 months x