Health visitor

[AyyX]

Anyone else have an annoying HV?
Second baby in and I’ve got the same annoying healthy visitor as the first one. She asked me if my baby takes dummy and when I said yes she laughed slightly and said oh... you shouldn’t really give them dummies. I told her when he was in NICU the midwives there asked me if I had a dummy for him and to bring him one if I wanted to.... she acted surprised and went on to say how back in her days (probably a long while ago) they said dummies weren’t good etc etc. I said but it prevents SIDS doesn’t it? Then she just rambled on..

Idk why she’s always suggesting unwanted opinions.
She told me to feed on the other boob once I was finished with one to see if he’s still hungry. I know my baby though. Thought let me just try her suggestion.. he threw up all over me after

I th ink they cover areas so you will get the same unless she moves on to another job.

It is an optional service so you can decline if you want. I just smile and nod and ignore everything they say.

I remember when I was pregnant she did call me to ask if I wanted a health visitor this time round.. I’m sure I said no I’m ok. So idk why she still called? After I was discharged by the midwives I had a different HV and she was nicer and less opinionated. I thought thank god. But it’s the same one after her now..
I’m the same I just say ok yes ok ok and ignore too. Last time she was rambling on about something else for like 10mins rolls eyes

My HV came into the house and asked me to turn the TV on as there was an announcement due (nothing to do with babies/health), and she didn't want to miss it.

If you know the other one's name you might be able to ask to see her instead?

You can ask for a different HV or just not see them if you don’t need to.

Dummies don’t prevent SIDS but removing one from a young baby who is already used to a dummy ever so slightly increased the risks of SIDS. Dummies can bring a lot of comfort to babies.

@Fitforforty

You can ask for a different HV or just not see them if you don’t need to.

Dummies don’t prevent SIDS but removing one from a young baby who is already used to a dummy ever so slightly increased the risks of SIDS. Dummies can bring a lot of comfort to babies.

Yes, I think I've come across that study before too.

OP, yes, some HVs can be patronising as they have lots of boxes to tick. It can be annoying... Just trust the mothers to parent their baby! I have one like this. After my 2nd and 3rd babies, I had to try not to roll my eyes. I did challenge her a couple of times too, when she told me not to co-sleep with my EBF baby. Funnily enough though, I changed my mind about her after my 4th was born, when I was in need of support with a problem. She came into her own then!

Oh I remember when she told me to put my first in a Moses / cot and don’t cosleep!
If she knew I cosleep with my newest she would probably ramble on too.
Every parent does things differently and whatever works for them won’t work for others so I think they need to stop being so pushy and give unwanted opinions unless asked!

I did put both in a Moses basket btw. My son just doesn’t like it, I think it’s uncomfortable. It’s just easier to breastfeed when he’s next to me instead of getting up every 2hrs to carry him over and back. Plus he sleeps a bit longer with me 😬
I said I wouldn’t cosleep with my second to get them used to their own bed but it’s so hard when it comes to breastfeeding, especially when he feeds so often in the night - it’s exhausting 😔

@AyyX

I did put both in a Moses basket btw. My son just doesn’t like it, I think it’s uncomfortable. It’s just easier to breastfeed when he’s next to me instead of getting up every 2hrs to carry him over and back. Plus he sleeps a bit longer with me 😬 I said I wouldn’t cosleep with my second to get them used to their own bed but it’s so hard when it comes to breastfeeding, especially when he feeds so often in the night - it’s exhausting 😔

Completely agree!