Would you be happy with DP taking DS abroad?

[takemebackto2006]

DP's parents live in Cyprus. DP hasn't seen them since early 2020 and his dad has been diagnosed with cancer in that time.
He's going over to see them and is taking DS (4) - I'm 28 weeks pregnant and COVID aside have had hyperemesis so I couldn't think of anything worse than travelling and being away from home.
I'm uneasy about him taking DS as things are and that fact I have to leave the house while they isolate meaning I won't see them for around 18 days in total.
My mum said she can't believe I'm letting him take DS, but when I've said before I'm not happy it just causes far too much of a row and he says he'll take him anyway.

If your father in law is seriously ill, it doesn't seem to be the right time for his four year old grandson to be visiting. Four year olds are very lively.

I think your husband should go on his own.

In theory I’d be fine with a visit abroad, but to not see my child for 18 days would be the deal breaker!

Given the ever-changing border rules with Covid, I would not be willing to be separated on opposite sides from my child.

@AdriannaP

Not sure why you need to listen to your DM, if the situation was reverse I am sure she’d love DGS to visit. Her judgment seems clouded as she can see him more often.

This.

My MIL keeps banging on that I shouldn’t take my daughter to see my parents if Italy gets added to the green list soon (I’m in Italy, my family is in the Uk) and it’s really annoying me as she throws a fit if she doesn’t see DD for more than a week. My parents haven’t even had chance to meet her yet!

Think OP has disappeared!

I wouldn’t even think twice about my DH taking our kids abroad. He’s as equally their parent, he’s a fantastic, caring, loving man who’d do anything for them. I trust him with my life & theirs. I had HG & was in hospital for loads of my second pregnancy. DH regularly took DD1 to his family who live in Devon (we are up north, it’s a good 7 hour drive!) for up to a week at a time. She had a great time, he got some support with childcare & a break and I was able to throw up in peace & quiet. Win win. I did of course really miss my little girl but it was fine. We video called every day. I felt so shit that I was a terrible parent, literally hopeless!

Is there more to this?

Were you ok with this until your mum shit stirred?
I think it's absolutely fine for a man to take his child to see a terminally ill parent on his own unless there is something you've forgotten to mention something like he's not good at taking care of your son's needs

Why not, it's his son too?