Stroppy DH

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We have 5 yr old twins.

How do I make my v stubborn husband realise that sometimes, just because he's in bad mood, it shouldn't infect everyone else and the kids can have fun.

He was snapping at them all day when, actually, the kids were ok. Yes they were silly, yes it took us an age to get them to eat their carrots, yes they had far too much rough and tumble time on our bed, but in the grand scheme of things they weren't bad.

I had to send him off at bedtime just to get his mood out of the house.

No wonder that the kids tend to favour me (which pisses him off as well).

How do I deal with this? He's very proud and stubborn (I think I mentioned that) so he doesn't react well to me suggesting different ways of parenting to him. He has a high stress job too which never helps.

I'm not perfect either- but I think I know when I'm bringing the problem to the table.

Please can you help me? Maybe there's a book out there I can recommend to him? There's a chance he would read a book....

Thanks.

Hmmm my husband can be moody I used to try and carefully manage what I said and try to work out how to make him happier but it made me really stressed inside and impacted our relationship.

I then realised I’d never really directly told him how I felt. Only in a hinting, gentle way which made no difference. Once I was just out with it he improved and I felt better!
My friend said to her husband “ I already have two kids I don’t need another! “
Why should you be having to manage his moods as well as caring for the kids. It’s a lot of you to deal with. If he’s not happy he needs to deal with it like an adult or talk to you properly when the kids are in bed. When they are there he needs to realise it’s not all about him, get over himself and focus on you and the kids. I find moodiness comes from being self absorbed with my husband anyway.

Thanks for replying. It is like having another kid in the house.

Thankfully he's been back on brilliant dad form today.... Maybe I'll talk to him this week but for now I think it might be best to leave sleeping dogs lie.