Sad at moving house with 7 month old

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I'm probably being too emotional about this but would like to hear of anyone else felt this way about moving with a baby. We've finally completed on a house after a very, very long conveyance and will be moving out of our rented place next month. We'd hoped for it to happen before the baby arrived and I'm finding myself really sad that my baby's whole babyhood will have been in another house that wasn't ours. She's 7 months and has just outgrown the bassinet and about to outgrow her crib and I will miss not having those memories of her being tiny in the new house. It's definitely the right move, but I wish it had happened months ago so it didn't feel like such a big bit of her life is left behind. I know that sounds ridiculous in the grand scheme of things and we will make lots of memories in the new house, but I will really miss snuggling up with her in the same place I did when she was a newborn. My god, this is total first world problems when I write it down! Anyway, anyone relate?

We moved from the house we had when my DC were all born. They were older primary years.

I had to travel back weekly to the empty old house for 2 months and stay in it whilst empty. Was dreading it but actually without them there it really was just a house not our home!

I think your sadness could also be that your newborn is getting older and time is passing by. It can be an emotional journey as those early months fly past.

We moved when our eldest was 2. You'll have many, many years and new memories in the new house and just because you're moving, doesn't mean you'll forget those early days with your LO

Aww bless you OP, please don’t worry, it’s totally normal to feel anxious the moving process is awful. But as previous posters have said, once you make your new place home, you won’t even think about your old place. I moved when my two DS’ were 2 & 7mths, the best thing we ever did for them. Good luck with your move.

I'm desperate to move so DD can have her own bedroom and enough space to keep her toys etc.

But I was gutted when she grew out of the carrycot bit of the pram, when she was too big for the moses basket (even though she barely slept in it) when she was too big for the next to me and it actually hurt my heart to pass it on to a relative (though she hated it more than the moses basket). Shes one next month and I'm feeling hugely emotional about it.

It's just a strangely emotional time - I love this phase far more than the newborn one and every day shes more fun, hitting new milestones, it honestly just gets better but I miss her being a tiny baby and do feel sad about each little stage as it passes.

I can totally understand how you're feeling but you take your memories with you. Is there a particular armchair or item from the house that you associate with the newborn days that you could find a home for in the new place?

I moved across the country with a 3 week old into rented accommodation and then into a property we bought when DC was 8 months old.

I hated being in a rental due to having a nightmare landlord and couldn't wait to get into my own house, so I really can't relate.

We moved when my DS was one. I thought I'd be upset to leave all of our memories, his first bedroom, the place he had his first steps etc etc. I was sad on the day, but when we got settled into our new house I realised that the memories go with you and a house is just a building. What's important is the home you make and the people in it, it sounds trite but it's true.

It’s all new memories op, life is about progressing, moving forward, creating new memories. Nothing is left behind, it’s all part of the tapestry of your lives.

Moved a couple of times, moved from the house where we brought Ds1 home to, where he took his first steps, then moved from the house where we brought Ds2 home to and also took his first steps. Now we have been in this house since they were 6 and 3, a house my Mother never stepped foot in as she died 2 weeks before we moved.

You just learn to cherish the memories. It doesn't matter that it happened somewhere else in another house. Well, eventually it hurts less. You will make many more memories in the new house.

I kind of get it. Its probably more about your DC growing and moving onto the next stage as well.

We moved two years ago out of the house were babies in. It's kinda sad, but we have loads of new memories now in the new house.

My parents moved into their current home when I was 9 or 10 years old. None of us were born in that house, but we all still think of it as the family home.

We moved when our DD was 10 months old and I felt the same, we have moved again since that and now have our long term/forever home. I felt the same but the feeling does go away

Just to add, have you thought of taking some photos of your current house and garden to show him when he's older? You could make a little book of phots of him in each room.

It is totally Kirkland though. I can remember being upset when my first's teeth came through because he no longer had that gummy baby smile

Thanks everyone, it is good to know it's not just me being odd and I really appreciate the advice and similar stories. I will definitely take lots of photos before I go and I love the idea of making an album for her.

I've realised reading these replies that there might be something more here. My parents built our family home before i was born and I lived there my whole childhood. They passed away when I was young so the house, where my brother still lives, is the link to them. I think because of that I'm placing a lot of emphasis on the physical building we are living in rather than the family and home we made inside it. Hopefully we will be in the new house for many years and have lots of time there together to make memories.

We moved into our first house when our twins were about 10 months old. Broke my heart but we were moving out of my late mum’s house where I grew up, as we had to sell it once she died. I didn’t think much about the twins growing up somewhere else I don’t think, but it was very hard to leave that house and I still miss it now.

My 10 year old has lived in seven homes, my eight year old in six homes, across 3 countries.

They don't remember the first three. But they love hearing about them. They look at the pictures. They were all happy homes.

The important bit isn't the bricks and mortar, its the people inside.

I've realised reading these replies that there might be something more here. My parents built our family home before i was born and I lived there my whole childhood. They passed away when I was young so the house, where my brother still lives, is the link to them. I think because of that I'm placing a lot of emphasis on the physical building we are living in rather than the family and home we made inside it. Hopefully we will be in the new house for many years and have lots of time there together to make memories.

How you’re feeling is totally understandable. Just keep reminding yourself that your baby won’t remember the home you’re in now. We moved when I was 2 and I have no memories of the old house at all.

I will definitely take lots of photos before I go and I love the idea of making an album for her.

I have a friend who took a photo a day of her LO to send to her DH at work, it’s a beautiful archive. If there’s one thing I wish I’d done it’s I wish I’d taken , it’s I wish I’d taken more photos.