how many siblings do you have? and has this effected how many children you want to have ?

[pregnantbabyelephant]

just interested if this could be part of why people want the amount of children they do ?

juule please tell us more how do you find having 9 ? im v interested as i want a v large family too

What sort of things do you want to know? I love having them all. I like the 'busyness' of it all although there are times that I'd like a bit of peace and quiet. It has developed gradually over the years and become a way of life with ups and downs along the way.

Hey juuule, I thought you had alot too. You make my brood look tiny!!

DP and I are both one of 3 and I'm sure it influenced our having 3. For both of us two didn't seem enough, though I know this is irrational and 2 is a perfectly sensible number of children.

I am middle child of 3 and always thought it was a good position. Not to be the fussed-over eldest, nor the neglected youngest. Plus both my siblings liked me and fought with each other so I always got to choose what we did

MrsS -"You make my brood look tiny!!" Lol Is it possible to make a brood of 6 aged 9y and under look tiny?
I've only got 4 aged 9y and under and my 'baby' is now 4y When did that happen?
It's hard work at times isn't it?

I am middle child of 3 girls and I want 4. My sisters argue or are not talking often and they both complain to me about each other.It's maddening.
I think this has influenced my decision. I have 2 already and am so happy with them but I don't feel we are complete yet.
DP is youngest of 7 (5 girls, 2 boys) and wants loads!

I am one of 4. Have 2 kids - and very mixed opinions - in one way, two is very 'civilised' in comparison to my chaotic childhood, but equally, I loved growing up in a 'pack' and think it made my relatioships with my parents much more relaxed. I suspect that having more children might be quite nice for my kids, but flipping hard work for me...

(expat - sorry to hear your news - good luck for tomorrow)

I am one of three and it's the main reason I had three myself.

Three is a fabbo number imo.

I'm second of four. I think three is the perfect number. Don't know if I'll get there - I have a career and love my job whereas my Mum didn't.

Also, my dp is an only child so will take some persuading that big noisy households are ultimately happier. Of course I may be wrong but I doubt it.

We currently only have one child. I am the oldest of 3 and DH has one younger bro.

I would like at least one more, but think DH not so keen. Think sibling numbers do have impact, 3 feels like a nice size 'gang' to me

DH and i are both one of three, we have three because it feels like the right number, so in answer to the OP, yes it is part of it. DH would like four or more but i think that's because he wants to grow his own football team. No chance!

I have two siblings. I am only having two children. I don't want a middle child, neither does DH.

I am one of 6, the second eldest (1 older bro, 3 younger bros and a younger sis) and I have 3 - well 4 really but DS1 was stillborn.

3 is nice, but I suspect only because there are 9 yrs between DS1 and 2 so I only have 2 little ones. I don't think I want another, but haven't totally ruled it out. i wouldn't have 6 as I don't feel my mother made enough time for us all (in fact any time) but that was more to do with her personally iyswim.

I am one of four and expecting my 4th and final baby!

I have one sib, DH has 2. We have one DS and don't want anymore.
I have no relationship with my brother (only see/speak to him if he happens to visit my parents when we're there, so about once a year). DH now has some contact with his brothers, but not in a very sibling type way.
We both felt that DS would get enough other child contact with nursery/school friends without having sibs. His cousins are all 10 yr+ older than him too.

dh and i are both one of two. my mother was an only child, my dad is one of eleven. i would love a big family but think we will just have two.

I am one of eight children.
I have three children and will not have any more.
I didn't want more than three children as my experience of growing up was that mum and dad simply did not have enough hours in the day to give anything like the amount of attention i would have liked - my elder sisters did most things for me when i was little. It was fantastic fun as we all played together ( 8 children in 10 years) but twas not for me

I am one of 3, eldest.
Not affected my decisions regarding my own family though/

I am one of eleven. DH is had one sibling who died very young. We have one child. He had to be talked into having the one (though he is very pleased I talked him into it now) and we have no intentions of having any more.

None of my siblings have more than three children. Of the three that do, I know that for two of them the third child was unplanned and as for the other, I haven't asked.

Pagwatch has summed up eloquently what it is like to grow up competing for parental attention. I like being able to give my dd my undivided attention.

yikes at 11

i am one of 2, as is dh

have always assumed i'd have 2

i currently have 2

I also have no sibs and six children.

I am one of six children and always wanted a biggish family.
DH is one of two and he wanted 2 as that was obviously perfect (being what his parents did )

We have 3 children - the compromise between him wanting 2 and me wanting at least 4 - but I don't want any more now anyway.

My Mum had had all her 6 by the time she was 32 - I didn't start til I was 34 which also might have influenced my decision!

Heronsfly, how old are yours? That's spooky

Between us me and DP have:

3 brothers
2 sisters
3 step-brothers
1 step-sister.

We want three kids. Don't think it made the blindest bit of difference.

I am youngest of seven - think I probably have youngest child syndrome as am pathologically useless at grown up things like being organised and punctual and Living Within Your Means. Consequently am very unconfident about I would manage with more than one.

Would like to have another though. Might well happen as not very good at birth control either