So I have two kids (5 and 3). My partner works a lot. Seven days a week. Late nights in the week. And even coming home and doing more work. At least one weekend day is all day long. If not both days of the weekend. And this is all year round except 2 weeks at Xmas and 6 weeks the last term of school which he still works but no lates and no weekends. (so just before summer hols, unfortunately not during)
He rarely takes holiday (saying he just can't)
I've tried hard to accept it for what it is. Which is it's his job/ career. But I do get fed up a lot of the time as it's always just me and the kids. Every evening, homework, bed time, bath times, house work etc. Every weekend finding thing to keep them entertained, playing with them etc. Dealing with their tantrums and fights. I do work full time as well (mon-fri)
Then when he does have time off. He doesn't have alot of patience with the kids. (He does try but I guess it's not in his nature). I try to ask ways we can try to deal with the tantrums. But he always just says I don't know. The kids are always calling for me even when he is here. It can all get very overwhelming. And he gets frustrated that they always want me.
We don't even go out much or even spend much time together (when he's not on break from work) don't even connect much either. It feels like work is his main priority and that's it.
AIBU to think what's the point in the relationship, to feel frustrated and overwhelmed. Or am I being unfair because it's his job not like he's spending late nights and weekends on a hobby....
( we don't have family close by to help often)