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ADHD Referral

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Dilraj68 · 20/06/2021 20:51

DD has been in so much trouble ever since she started high school last year. She's nearing the end of Year 7 and her exams are starting tomorrow.

She's had problems following school rules and sticking to them. She's had so many detentions, exclusions, isolations and having to report to her head of year every day. Her entire school life is just littered with punishments, and I'm not feeling sorry for her.

I've noticed the things she does and says her impulsivity, forgetfulness and inability to stay focused on homework leads me to think she may have ADHD. We got the papers back from CAMHS and yesterday she saw those papers. She saw the checklist and is now acting like she actually has it and has become rude, boisterous, full of attitude and swearing at her elder siblings who are adults. She's really milking it by pushing the boundaries and seeing how far she can go. It's now in her head that she's allowed to play up.

I'm tired of talking and explaining things to her. I do my best to make her life easy and organise so she can focus. I'm a single mum and today she's gone to her dad's with her two sisters and they've told me how rebellious and naughty she's been. She's refused to complete her homework and says she doesn't care anymore.

I wrote here last week about her having her final warning meeting at school. The Head had given her tasks to do, detentions to see through and being on report. She was remorseful but now she just doesn't care.

I'm at my wit's end. Do I email the SENCO team at school tomorrow and fill them in or just wait until her paperwork is processed and she's seen by the mental health team?
I'm very concerned she'll not be able to do well in her exams.

Please help me. Thank you.

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lilmishap · 21/06/2021 03:24

Yes you email them, I would get on to the GP as well to try and hurry them up.

Everything can change so much in such a short space of time when you're 12/13 and she's acting in a way that leads to the wrong sort of friends and situations. It's also affecting her relationships and your lives.

CAMHS have said there are underlying reasons and they know it can be managed better by getting the right people involved

Medication does make a difference, the different handling that she will (hopefully) receive at school, the SENCO support will all take some of the pressure off you after you've been coping with it alone. So email everybody, phone everybody, and get them to start pulling their weight in managing this.

Dilraj68 · 21/06/2021 16:12

Thank you. I've just emailed the school SENCO team.

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