Need advice please

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Hi mums, me and my OH have been having issues without relationship since my DD was born nearly a year ago. We have tried relationship counselling which worked for a while but now feel as though we are back to square one. I don’t feel like our relationship is healthy for our DD and I really want to leave which has been discussed. I just really do not know where to go from here and it’s petrifying me. We have a mortgage together for starters so I would like to know what would happen about that? What sort of money/ benefits am I entitled too and how do I go about trying these or even about finding a house for me and my DD. Please is anyone has any answers or advice please let me know. I’m desperate.
TIA

Firstly go onto entitled to calculator.

I don't own I rent so can't help you on that front but some people on here are really clued up on that stuff so I'm sure they will be along shortly.

Maybe, Ask to move this post to the relationships forum where you can find lots of brilliant advice. Sorry you are having a dreadful time.

Honestly first year of baby’s life is SO hard. Massive adjustment for both parents, even if the baby was longed for. Before you decide to split up, are you absolutely sure it is what you want? I found it tough after my dd was born, so did my DH, but I’m glad we stuck it out because my life would have been a LOT worse as a working single parent and my DH adores my dd. Also I would have been sad to share custody, I love seeing my kids every day.

You say you’ve had counselling - I’m quite impressed you have both organised that with a small baby. I wonder did you think about trying a new counsellor.? Sometimes a different approach helps.

I’ve split up from a partner i had mortgage with in the past ( before having children). One of you needs to buy the other partner out of the mortgage so they could then own it on their own. If that’s not possible then you need to sell the property and split the equity. It’s a good time to sell from what I hear. So if you’re sure you want to split you need to get an estate agent to value the property, this will give you a rough idea of what money you may end up with. Then you can consider your options while it’s up for sale.

Hope this helps

@ @Itsnoteasyfeelingqueasy hi there I have only just seen your post as I am not receiving notifications/emails from mumsnet for some reason. When me and my partner bought this house together I was on maternity leave and only just recently gone back so I haven’t paid anything towards the mortgage and he put all of the deposit down does this make any difference to the circumstances. I am literally clueless with this. We had a deal to split things 60/40 if ever anything happened but don’t know where I stand with not paying anything. I’ve been trying to get hold of citizens advice for ages but no appointments available