Should I move back with ex for baby?

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My ex broke up with me 5 days after I found out I was pregnant. We were together 4 years beforehand and lived together 2, no issues other than the usual couple arguments around cleaning etc. My stuff was packed up, locks were changed and I heard nothing from him.

I’m not 7 months and he’s come to his first scan, 30 weeks and he seemed to regret his actions and now wants to take responsibility… unsure if that’s in reference to me, baby or both of us.

He’s offered for me to moving back in with him for his 2 week paternity leave as I am still waiting for my delayed mortgage to go through so I may still be in my cramped mams flat. So it is to help me but understandable bond with baby also.

1. Does it sound like he wants me back?
2. Is it a good idea?

3.Even if I’m in my home should I ask him to come to mine for 2 weeks?

I’m unsure what to think, I’m defo over thinking. Any opinions? He majorly freaked out but was a decent guy before and after 6 months silence and consideration he’s back

I had this almost exact situation, he cut all contact the day after I told him after refusing to discuss options because he expected me to have an abortion. Not wanted to discuss it as a possibility, he wasn't giving me any choice. When I said I was thinking things through he left and I didn't see him or hear from him until she was 2. Then he freely admitted (was almost proud) that he thought me being alone would force me to go through with the termination. He then felt pressured to meet her and be a Disney dad by friends and family after him telling them it was me who was a terrible parent etc... didn't work. He couldn't even get that right, my dd hasn't seen him for 6 years now. Someone that can treat you that callously when you're pregnant with his child is not a good dad or partner and shouldn't get another chance with you. You're worth more than that, and so is your child. Maybe he'll be a good dad, I don't know (I doubt it but stranger things have happened!) so your child deserves an opportunity to have that good dad if he's going to be one but it should be on terms that suit you and your baby. Work out what your comfortable with regarding spending time at his house, having him at yours, whether he's there for the birth or not and go from there. But keep yourself guarded because you're going to feel so vulnerable just before, during and after the birth and it will hurt 1000 times more if he rejects you again at that point. Good luck x

Why is he taking paternity leave? He'd only qualify if he were looking after the baby.

That's a good point @FricasseeTurnips - maybe he just sees the chance for a couple of weeks extra holiday!