DS is just turned 4 and due to leave nursery in Sept and start school. He is NT, usually bright and funny and loves making friends. BUT - he has a terrible temper and can be quite violent to us (parents) and his peers. He hits, kicks, spits, scratches. I know young kids can have these outbursts but they're becoming the norm rather than the odd one. I.e "mummy can I watch TV" "no, it's nearly bedtime" results in a physical attack on me. To make matters worse, his younger DS (16 months) has started copying him and is now hitting and pinching when she doesn't get her own way.
I've just had the nursery on the phone saying that he has gone mental at the lunch table, attacking and scratching the other kids. There never seems to be anything major that's triggering it, just the usual disagreements over toys or whatever.
We're considering getting some help with finding out what is driving this behaviour. Hopefully someone can tell us where we've gone wrong here!
Can anyone recommend any good child psychologists (or any other types of work that deal with behavioural issues in young children) in London and the Home Counties?