Demotivated with 8 month old

[Fletcher567]

Looking for some words of wisdom with a increasingly challenging baby.

First thing sleep…my DS has never been a good sleeper but it just seems to be getting worse. We try and try putting him in his cot at night but he will keep waking at 20 minutes interval once he first wakes until we concede and have him in with us as we just need sleep but even then he still wakes frequently. He naps fine in his cot but nighttimes are awful. He used to wake more as a newborn but would either feed or quickly be settled back to sleep and now he is just louder and all round more difficult, making nighttimes much more draining.

Secondly…fussiness. He has started this ungodly crying over bloody anything. He cries when he’s hungry and I go to feed him and he has a big tantrum and then I have to calm him down before feeding him. He also sees me and then let’s put a wail like the world is ending and I have to then pick him up but then he tries to throw himself out my arms.

Generally I’m just feeling so demotivated. A few weeks ago I happily took him anywhere and would be able to do the shopping knowing he would happily just browse the aisles whilst I shopped but now he randomly cries over anything and I just can’t be arsed. His routine is all over the place now and I just don’t even know where to start.

Please tell me I’m not alone or share some words of wisdom as I feel like such an awful mum but I just don’t have the mental energy to keep up with this whining non-sleeping little one!!!

Sounds like teething.

It is just a phase! You’ll get your happy baby back. It’s so shit when you’re in it though and nobody can tell you when it will end, but it will.

You're not alone. My DD is 8 months and this sounds like her.

Her nighttime sleep is awful at the minute and the heat is definitely not helping.

She also whines and whinges when she's even the slightest bit unhappy and she's definitely worse for me.

One positive however, she's become a-bit more cuddly and affectionate which is lovely.

I'm hoping it's just a phase (like everything) she's just started crawling too so FML xx

If it’s not just a phase and he’s always been bad at nights then I would definitely try sleep training.

Thanks everyone, I’m hoping it’s just a phase as it’s wearing me down. Woke up twice last night screaming the house down, didn’t want feeding, didn’t settle in our bed even, just excessive crying for seemingly no reason. @ManicPixie tried sleep training a couple of weeks back doing controlled crying and just hated it…my husband works long hours so I’d be doing it alone and just don’t have the will power to see it through.
@css04 good luck on the crawling! Definitely will have your work cut out in the day now…mine’s not far off I think!

Hi, I know this thread is from a few months back but I just wondered if I could get an update on how your little one is doing now?

I have an eight month old and I am honestly at my wits end. She cries all the time now, gets cross at everything and whinges all day. I just feel so miserable and like a bad parent at the minute. Please tell me it gets better! 😞

I have 3 dcs, now older but this is so normal. I always found the early months quite easy as they sleep so much in general and are so portable!! 8 months is when they are starting to wake up to the world, maybe some teething, preparing to be on the move etc ! I think parenting kids is just like this, constant phase. Itll pass and get easier but itll ve replaced by something else running off, in everything ...