To cut a long story short, my 6 year old has been having problems with one particular school friend since September. Said friend apparently stops other friends playing with or sitting with my dd during play time and most days my dd comes up upset about this. I initially tried to manage the situation by encouraging my dd to ignore the behaviour, play with other children not in that circle, but that hasn’t helped and it also made me question WHY should my dd not plan with who she wants to and that I was wrong to say make other friends.
I then thought I arrange play dates with this friend so strengthen their friendship but this didn’t help either.
Another factor to the story is I am very good friends with her mum but haven’t said anything (not sure why, I’ve just always assumed best never to confront the parents in these situations)
Few weeks ago after my dd had a particularly bad few days I decided to have a call with her class teacher to explain. She wasn’t too amazing snd quite dismissive saying my dd should go and tell her when she feels upset. Of course this happens only in playground so that teacher isn’t there on playground duty so her suggestion doesn’t really work.
What am I meant to do? Part of me thinks there’s just a few more weeks of the school year and to just leave it since in September they won’t be in the same class, but other part of me says a few weeks is still a long time for my dd to be feeling upset daily over this one child’s behaviour. Plus they would still mingle in the playground in September.
What do I do? Do I speak to her mum in a gentle, non complaining way?
I know another mum had the opposite issue with this same child who was preventing her dd from playing with other kids and being possessive of her daughter. With my dd it’s more a case of not letting other kids play with her. (Mentioning this bit as I think the child probably has some issues with friendship/social skills)