Lost friends through being a parent?

[Thunder82]

When I had my two children I was so consumed in my little bubble loving my baby and toddler, loving my days with them when husband was at work. I didn't meet up with much of my mates at the time as they didn't have kids and I didn't like to ignore my kids through chatting etc it was too hard to carry a conversation on as my kids would be too little and wonder off etc so I did lots of walks, days out, painting, playing etc just us 3.

Fast forward only a few years my youngest is 7 and oldest nearly 10 and I can't already feel their independence,I can feel like I can do more stuff, go out more, yet now I have no friends to do it with 😩.

How did everyone keep their friendships when having kids, it's exhausting and now I don't have any but see everyone who's kept their friendships going it's so upsetting or am I the only one?

X

I've got a one year old and I'm 8 months pregnant and all my friends have vanished apart from one who isn't very good with babies at all. The thing is though they have vanished through my lack of ability to keep in touch, they did try for a while tbf! I've been trying to survive each day so messaging people has been put right the back of the queue. So I'm in the same boat! Hoping to meet new people when I go back to work in a few years but it is lonely right now. Motherhood is the one of the loneliest times of your life I feel, I envy those who have managed to keep up friendships or have mum friends for sure. I'm only 23 so most of my old friends are just partying 24/7. So I get you completely