To have a baby now or never?

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Im 33, i have PCOS. Doctor told me i need to have a baby in the next year max as basically 35 will be too late. I did want another but i was thinking more when i was 35 ish.

Now its the pressure... we either start trying pretty soon which wasnt the plan or we dont have another.

WWYD?

I think the important thing is that you had already decided you wanted another, albeit a bit further in the future. It may not be the perfect time but by the sounds of it you might regret not trying at all.

Really depends on the circumstances.
Since you already have a child, you don't really have to have another if, let's say, you can't afford it.

How old is your dc? Do you think you'd manage physically/emotionally/financially?

I had one DS at 27 and have failed to conceive following that (I'm now 40). I have two conflicting thoughts about your problem:

1. life with an only can be lovely. I'm one of three and the amount of attention I can give DS is so much better than my own experience. Also, I can afford so many more opportunities than I could with two.
2. I didn't try conceiving a second until I was 30. If I'd been told at 29 that this next year was critical I would have definitely tried to conceive in that year.

I guess I'm saying in your place I would go for it, but if it doesn't work out you can still have a lovely life.

If I was told it's now or never I wouldn't hesitate to try for another. A couple of years earlier than planned may not seem ideal but are you really prepared to possibly lose out on a second child that you do want?

You want another in two years anyway so I'd just crack on now! You'd regret not doing so

In your position I would just have the second sooner than planned, rather than risking not at all. But I always really wanted to have two so it would be an easy decision.
Were you fairly certain anyway that you want two, and it’s just the timing that is off? Or were you not yet 100% sure on having the second at all? If the first one, then I think just go for it and have a smaller gap than planned

Thank you ladies, so so true. I think the regret would be harder.

In my heart i want another, and yes like one woman said its only a year sooner really.